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Jennifer


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I recieved a phone call from my exah yesterday, he has been released after some delay of paperwork or something. And when I answered the phone I did not recognise his voice and felt not really anything when I found out who it was. No fear, no anger, no blame, no love, no like, no dislike ... just pretty much nothing. Well ok there was some mild annoyance because I just got home and thought the call was going to be my Mom with information I needed or I would not have answered the phone until I was settled. But no more annoyance than if it had been a telemarketer LOL I am surprised I really thought I would feel something, not sure what but something. This is good.

Working on the forgiveness area. i liked many of the suggestions in the responses given. It helped me to figure out I need to focus on how I feel about myself and my HP and for more reasons than having been affected by alcohol. There are other issues I am holding some darker feelings about between my HP and I also. I am especially thankful for finding I am not alone in discomfort with the word forgiveness. I think I can find options to help me let go with words and thoughts other than forgiveness at least until I am ready to forget as well. biggrin.gif

Thanks for listening!
Jen

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hotrod


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Great recovery Jennifer

Such an inspiring share,  It reinforced the power of the Slogan  "DO NOt Project". 

I know how hard you worked your program on this issue , living ODAT, focused on yourself , sharing your concerns here, getting feedback and using the tools.  When that telephone call came you were able to respond with courage, serenity and wisdom  WOW!!  

Forgiveness is an interesting topic  i was unable to "Forgive and Forget"  so that I asked HP to lift my anger so that I no longer held the  resentment in m heart.  That has happened and today  I still remember the many incidents that caused me terrible pain  --The memory is there but he pain is not  For me that is as much forgiveness as I can muster  and it is enough for today.

Thank you for sharing the journey

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Jerry F


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Yay Jen...yes some of our surprises are nice; not what we expected.  Sounds like
your detachment work has been working.   Keep coming back   ((((hugs)))) smile

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Debilyn


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Jen what a huge leap huh? Told you when we are done we are done.

I bet you feel a million pounds off your shoulders honey. I am so glad.

hugs to you all...deb

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One of the most notable things ever said to me as a teenager was that we experience things so that we can help someone else go through the same things. I can forgive but I have to remember because remembering allows me to empathize and share someone else's pain. I can honestly say, I KNOW what you are going through and draw on my life's experiences to relate. I think we all do - that is what sharing on this website is; remembering and relating and sharing our stories to help others in need.


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Hey Jen - thanks for sharing this. Very inspiring :)

I see it as a testament to how far we can come (you have come). (I went back and read some of your older posts so... I saw, in your own words, post by post, the progress you've made). Well, I didn't read every post...but you know what I'm saying!

:)

Danielle

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