"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Found the flap open so

ClippedWings · Member

Sometimes I find that it's not always Day to Day... as much as Moment to Moment! Sigh.... Oh Look...
New moment Beginning - - - NOW! :) Try to make the most of it! LOL - if it doesn't work, try,try again.

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

Jerry,

I posted a prayer several months ago on MIP that helps us not react to our alcoholic's. But as with the program it works in all our affairs.

"HP walk with your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth".

Like you Jerry........To often I open my mouth before HP can get his hand over it.

HUGS,
RLC

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

Sometimes I am fortunate enough to recognize that it is going to be one of "those" days before its too late. SOMETIMES I'm able to alter my plans before I've shown the wrong face to the world because that face isn't who I choose to be. Sometimes I forgo the self-checkout because I KNOW i cannot take the electronic voice of the machine......... just keep telling yourself you can't build character without doing things you regret. And - it sounds like you can laugh at yourself - best medicine there is - I firmly believe that HE will sit with me someday and show me the highlight reel of my life and we will both have a good laugh at some of it. Cheers

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Well ya got home with out anyone clobbering you! haha.

Oh Jerry I HATE people to be on my bum when I am driving. I have to work hard to not take it as my problem. I lean to the right so I cannot see them in my mirror. Or I just pull over, let them go by.

Oh when I am off my leash... which I hate to admit, I pull over open my door and yell. "GET OFF MY A**!!!" Then I feel guilty and wish I had a clothspin on my lips....I apologise to HP. And tell myself to ignore and hope it was not one of my neighbors!

Usually I am pretty mellow, just think in my head this is just life. Things happen, it's hard to be in this world. So just accept that and go on.

For me it was accepting things just happen. So take a breath and just fix it. I could be upset that all my underwear and socks are up at the cabin. Also could be upset that I even went up there a few days ago and forgot to bring them home AND the medication I left up there.....

Aw we know, you of all people are human. hehe

Hugs, love,debilyn

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

I have those days, the days where Im humbled because my arrogance is just sticking out there.

I came unglued on two police officers last nite that trailed me for at least a mile, I knew they were after me, but what for????
so I turned right and turned right again to evade them, but it was a dead end and when I went to drive forward, there they were, the two Cops with their
flashing lights. I was so indignant, How dare they stop a 65 year old woman at 11:00 PM at nite, who had gotten out of a sick bed to go to the
store. I screamed out the window "I didnt do anything , so you better have a good reason for stopping me." " If you have a bone to pick with me, bring
me down to the station". He told me to get out of the car and he asked " Whats wrong with You" why are you so upset. I told him , IM PISSED! This is harrassment. Told me to step over and I knew he was going to flash his lite in my eyes. I said, Go ahead , flash your lite. He told me I better settle down.

I asked myself the same question, Why was I so pissed. turns out I hadnt bothered to fix my headlight, I know they had nothing else to do, it was a slow nite, they
treated me like a criminal. I told him " Why dont you go catch a criminal".. I was a real smart ass.

He talked me down and I calmed down and he said he would let me go but I had to promise to get the light fixed, which I did today..... I cried all the way home at loosing it..
I felt like I had gotten a DUI , I had terrible dreams all nite, couldnt sleep. I realized today I still have that willfullness in me, that sometimes that damaged part of me comes out and
I am inpatient with the world because make way for me, Im entitled. I moved from my Condo which was in an affluent neighborhood to an average American neighborhood, but all the way home when I was crying, I kept saying, how did I get here?? Like Im some kind of special human being that shouldnt be living with the masses.

Even when my cousin came to visit me, she told me Well its not........, I told her thats right I dont live there anymore, I live here among everyday working people, but maybe I really didnt accept it and Im angry over it. Im trying to really develop the treasures of the heart. I want to really live that, not just talk the talk. At first I thought last nite was a fluky thing
with those two cops, but I know better, nothing happens by accident. Today, I got a little package in the mail from a long time friend that lives in Acapulco. He hasnt been well
lately. It was a Valentine card. It read "Love comes in many forms and friendship is one of the most important" in it was a beautiful pair of blue pearl and gold earrings. Such treasures of the heart , the most important gifts. My HP really showing me whats important and your address is not one of them.

Thank you Jerry for helping me to share.

Luv, Bettina

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

I was once the perfect picture of grace ... could read people's comfort and discomfort levels and smooth conversations over between people to keep a professional flow in my business area. Supposedly practice makes perfect but not in this case ... I have misplaced that ability and have to work at it every moment

I believe HP knew exactly what was best for me and the world at large when I lost enough vision to not be safe on the road LOL

And some days i am not working it as well as I can on other days. You are not alone there. Hiding somewhere safe with no access to phone or email or public usually helps until the calm comes back. And by then people are ready to accept my apologies too!

Jen

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Was there a full moon last nite.??

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

I love that RLC, I will have to remember it....

danielle0516 · Senior Member

Jerry - I love your share. Thanks for sharing! So, I'm not alone. It's ok to have a bad day... you recognize it and apologize, what more can you do - that's more than the majority of people out there!

I think there was a full moon a few nights ago actually. If there's a full moon where I live - is it also full everywhere else? haha, I don't remember my earth sciences!

RLC - I love that quote, thanks for sharing.

I think we all had a similar day.

Yesterday, I went to a Tim Horton's (coffee place, I don't think you have them in the states but not sure..) and there was a kid in front of me, first in line. We waiting 10 minutes while 2 employees attended to the drive thru and didn't even acknowledge us....OOHHH my blood started to boil! After 11 - 12, minutes, I stomped up to the drive thru area and asked:

"is there anyone working the front"

the man replied: "it is only the 2 of us right now and the drive thru is busy"

arrgg!

"well, I can see that and that's ok, but it is still nice for our presence to be acknowledged, we've been standing there for 10 minutes and you no one has so much as glanced over and nodded at us"

He told me he would be there soon - so I walked back to my spot in line.

(The kid then told me that always happened to him). I found my self worrying that I set a bad example for this kid.

Later when the worker man gave me my coffee I said I was sorry for snapping. Cause I felt SO bad about it. But, I still think it was shitty customer service!

danielle0516 · Senior Member

Oh...and cars taking up 2 parking stalls ... that's a huge pet peeve of mine - I once wrote a note and left it under someone's windshield explaining to them how to park properly.

Then, I tell myself, ok..just breath. This is not the end of the world, nothing you can do about it, just move one. And... I do. It bothers me a lot less now, but, I still notice it!

canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

Jerry... I think this 'human' affliction of yours may indeed be catching..... Careful, or you will fall down from the pedestal (that I have you placed upon), and will be down on the ground with the rest of us.... :)

Wondering if subliminal messaging works on here..... <<<<<send Tom pineapple>>>>> hey, it works for me!!

Hehe... thanks for sharing

T

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

What a family...listen, learn and practice...so I did come home and stayed and while
I stayed found out I'm catching some kinda bug...starts in the throat...wife had it first
but amazing I'm settled down now and quiet. Your responses are what support in
recovery are all about. Mahalo Nui. (((((MIP))))) smile

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

There is a bug going around, Ive had for almost 2 weeks, rest Jerry....

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Jerry and MIP Family

Thank you for begining my day with a smile. It reminded me of my friend who was a priest. Many years ago he taught me a silent prayer:

"Dear God, Please help me to keep my big mouth shut"

I say it often smile

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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"