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AH informs me last night that he's been analyzing himself... and that he in fact (lol) is not an alcoholic... that he doesn't suffer from it, that he believes he suffers from OCD..
He tells me that he hates my new hair cut, tells me I don't look good with it, which whatever... I like it, that's all that matters.
Then he's been setting up accounts on dating sites in my name, then turning around and accusing me of doing so.. Has he truly lost it!
My brother in law is a sex addict(well, at least my sister thinks so) and this is some of the stuff that he would do when he gets in his 'manic' episodes. There are so many labels we could come up with for an A or even for a dry drunk: narcissist, OCD, OCPD(obsessive compulsive personality disorder, this fits my AH to a T), ADD, ADHD, Bipolar, sociopath, etc. He can think anything he wants, but you know what you know so you don't need to argue with him. You just need to take care of you! I'm glad you like your haircut, too, that's so important that we stand up for what we like and don't do everything to please others(not just our A's). I'm slowly learning this, too.
Hey Evian. Wow. It's just addict behavior..plain and simple. Anything to turn it around on anyone else and take the focus off of them.
My husband would dial people From AA's phone numbers, then hang up right away so it would show up in dialed called. Then, he would show me his phone and say: "Look, I called this person, that person". Did not matter that "length of call" or whatever was 0 or 1 seconds long, or that the status was 'disconnected" or whatever it said.
Your husband sounds a lot like how mine was a year ago.
Try not to let it bother you...he is sick sick sick and it's just what they do.
