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Jennifer


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My exah gets out of prison today. The last couple years has been a breeze of concentrating on myself and my program. I am trying not to project. I am having a hard time trying to either not feel or accept feeling this dread that I am about to be tested in so many different ways. Any tool suggestions and ESH would be much appreciated.

Jen



-- Edited by Jennifer on Wednesday 16th of February 2011 10:30:29 AM

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I remember being nervous last year when I was going to welcome my daughter home from her first deployment and I would also be seeing my exAH. During the eight- hour drive there, I just started saying the Step 3 and step 7 prayer over and over and over. I felt an amazing peace saying it, even better...........I can't even begin to describe how beautifully things worked out during that visit.

Knowing myself (inventory) is powerful. Turning it all over is incredible relief.

Stay in the day.... stay in this moment, perhaps that's what this event is about, a opportunity for a greater benefit in your spiritual journey.   Read something that reminds you of staying in the Now, I like to read Eckhart Tolle.  Also... consider putting him in your God box.... then relax. And have a beautiful day. ((hugs))



-- Edited by glad lee on Wednesday 16th of February 2011 11:54:21 AM

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I honestly doubt he will cause any problems. If it were me and he contacted me, I would make sure I made it clear to him NOT to contact me again. If he does I would tell them I would get a RO.

When they get out,they do NOT want to go back in. They are under very serious supervision. If he broke a contact order, back in prison he would go. They have to stay out of ALL trouble.

good for you not projecting. But it is ok to have a plan as to what to do if he does contact you.

Once he figures out you have nothing he wants, he won't bother. Maybe he has already.

Most of what we worry about never happens. BUT again good for you for being aware.

Keeping you in my prayers! debilyn

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I remember going back over the events of our life together and inventorying how
I would rather have my life be.  I had to make "me" decisions and make good
ones or else I would be getting the same negative consequences from my bad
choices and decisions.  I accepted reality that where I was was really and where I
wanted to be was really my responsibility and not the responsibility of others no
matter who.  Yes there were many others ini my life and still I had the "yes" and
"no" choices of much that went on in it.   Nervousness for me is usually an alert
feeling...I'm afraid of what's going to happen or I'm afraid I don't know or the
like...Filter that thru the Serenity Prayer and it is like turning on a bright flashlight
in a dark room.  I don't like having and "accidental life".   Keep coming back.
(((hugs))) smile

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The first thing that crossed my mind was boundaries , you can have control of your relationship with your ex , and maintain your dignity . If there are children involved accept the fact that he will want to see them work this program as hard as you can as he is going to be in your life for along time ( kids ) .. take care of you ask for help from your HP and your gonna be just fine .Louise

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