Am I The Crazy One??? - Al-Anon Family Group

delhommefan · Veteran Member

Am I The Crazy One???

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Boy that isn't the greatest place in the world to be. Thank God for Al-Anon with all
of the meetings and literature and sponsor and steps, traditions, slogans and all
of the tools that helped me arrive at accepting reality and making more rational
solid choices for myself without an urge to maybe give "them" one more chance.
I am an enabler...the stuff I do inside of a bad situation can and will make that
situation worse so I don't do it anymore. I don't make believe that giving an
alcoholic "one more chance" to prove they can handle it "just one more time" will
somehow work. The problem is more the chemical than the person. They might
think and feel and want to be acknowledged as normal and....no. Can't errrr no
Won't do that anymore. I certainly can go back to doing the same old things over
and over expecting different results and now just won't. If you got a problem
with that...take it up with God cause not even God will force me to change back.

Yes Lori...we are the crazy ones until we choose not to be anymore. In support.

Have some ((((((hugs)))))) smile

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Del Wellcome to MIP

Thanks for sharing. It certainly sounds as if you could use the support and tools that alanon can offer. Living with the disease of alcoholism, as you have affects our behavior in many different ways.

Finding a face to face meeting in your community will afford you the support and understanding you need. Go this this site for lisitng of meetings

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

The true gift of the alanon recovery program is that we learn tools to Focus on ourselves, Live One Day at a Time, connect in a constructive manner and know that we are not the "Crazy One"

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

What a difficult situation. Because who knows what is going on with your mom? I used to have a friend who had those petit mal seizures, and she was completely unaware of them, even afterwards. She was also unaware of her grand mal seizures, except she was groggy and angry afterwards. So who knows how much of your mom's behavior is addiction and how much is unacknowledged illness. Unacknowledged illness is its own kind of dysfunction. (I don't mean the illness, I mean the denial that some people can have, which can get extreme.)

Since she won't take responsibility for her own life, sadly it just requires detachment, like any dysfunctional behavior. And it's so hard to nod and go "Uh-huh" absently when dysfunctional people are lecturing us about our own lives.

But part of getting awareness is getting a perspective on the behavior of our family members. It sounds like your awareness is really growing. For what that's worth. smile

Hugs to you. Keep on protecting yourself.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Often times people focus on what is wrong with YOU to avoid looking at themselves. Heck....even I do that a lot. The more she spends time talking about your problems...the less likely she will get called out on hers.

It is your decision what to do with regard to distancing yourself from mom, telling her what you things, or whatever. I think it's important to remember that your opinion of yourself is what really matters. Support from our parents is really nice and we expect it a lot, but it's not a necessity. As long as YOU know you are doing right and doing the best you can....that is what's important.

In support,

Mark

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