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Just wondering when there is love or if thier is too much love.Situation when it fitss when somone is falling down in an adiction and hit rock bottom .do we regret ourselves for loving too much or not enoughlove any opinions on this. Also what about controlling love and how far to push it?
The answer might come in the movie "When love is not enough" which is the story of the wife; Lois of the founder of AA, Bill Wilson. Check it out and watch it. For me? Love was never enough and always necessary. (((hugs)))
This has been and IS a hard concept for me to get and learning to offer my exaH love, while not throwing myself under a bus, is a work in progress. The idea of "detaching with love" is something that has not come easy for me. I was always very good at detaching with seething anger, but not so good at it with love.
For me, I am separated 2+ years and still LOVE my exaH terribly. And I don't live with him, I don't do business with him, I don't counsel him, I don't take on his problems. I don't save him from the world or from himself anymore, but I LOVE him as much as I ever have.
Before I got to this place, I would do so many things out of LOVE that only seemed to make the situation more hostile and unbearable. In efforts to try and MAKE my exaH get sober, see what he was doing to himself and us, I drove myself crazy and got angrier and angrier and more bitter and more crazy. When I found a way to stop doing this, I found more peace for myself. And I never stopped loving him, even though, I don't share romantic love with him anymore.
I feel it is a hard concept and one that has no right or wrong answer. It is unique and individual.
