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So he is 2 days sober...


What do I do with me?  LOL.  Seriously, I am very tender right now and feeling vulnerable do to a bad tooth ache that is getting taken care of next week... and other asundry things that us Alanonics do to ourselves, and I just want some kind and gentle feed back on how to keep me busy while he is working on his sobriety.  He is two days in.  He is going to meetings and I am too :)  I am working hard with my sponsor.  And I am giving HP the reigns... trying to anyway LOL...  thanks in advance!

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SunFlower...what you are doing is what has been suggested to you from others who
have also done that and found that it worked for them as it also worked for those
who passed it on.

If you are sore and tender take as much weight off as you know is there and spend
alot of time in your HP's lap.  Pray and work the program confidently rather than hard.

I've had enough miracles in recovery to know that we just don't get one and that
includes you.

((((hugs)))) smile

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Ok Jerry, Thanks :) I hear you... I will not be so hard on me :)

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Ask your self what would you be doing right now if this werent happening , carry on as usual no need to sit home and watch he will stay sober or not choice is his , call afriend go for coffee or a movie take care of  you . Louise
and good luck to hubby .biggrin


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Good to hear your working your program and he is working his...:)  isnt it nice to see things separate...two people, two different programs and two different sets of issues, :)  keep working it, your worth it!



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Your avatar is so pretty, just like you!

Ok hugs for the tooth.

AND my first thought was, "um what is making YOU count darling????"

I say go get a pedicure, pretty polish and tiny rhinestones glued on!

love,deb

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My alcoholic has had 27 days. I take it one day at a time. He has been in recovery many times. I hope this time is different. 

I try to keep busy. We are very close and we have spend lots of time together since he lost his job. He is my only friend.

I know he needs to work his program so I am trying to detach with love. (Very hard). He is making friends. I have to let him.

I attend alanon. I am very shy so its hard for me to make friends. I try to keep busy. I am working on getting alanon literature.

I suggest you do nice things for yourself. Treat your self. Splurge. Go out with a friend.


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Thank you all :) And Debilyn, I took that photo of the butterfly myself a few years back (I do photography as a side job with weddings and all that :) Thanks!)


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