"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"

newleaf66 · Veteran Member

another question for you all...

canadianguy · ~*Service Worker*~

Some people do choose to go elsewhere, but I think it boils down to what you are most comfortable with... There is anonymity at meetings, so it really shouldn't be an issue in town, per se.... The meetings are for you, and your needs, so I would keep that at the forefront....

Take care
Tom

nmike · ~*Service Worker*~

Good question. But in the end you just need to go to a meeting somewhere. I am in a very small community. It has taken awhile to share about specifics. I have keep my shares general because I don't think many people know how to keep the "anonymous". I go to another meeting two hours away now and then. I am more open at that meeting. Good luck.

In support,
Nancy

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Ours is an anonymous fellowship and we keep the anonymity of the alcoholic also.
When married to my alcoholic and in Al-Anon no one ever knew her name or what
she looked like thru any effort of my own. In the fellowship everyone knew I had
"an alcoholic" (not a thing a person with a life threatening disease which was
threatening my life also) someone who's drinking affected my life. There was
nothing else to mention so I took the lead from the old timers and kep the
principle of anonymity which is our 12th traditions.

In reality also Tire's share is very experienced and in our town where drinkers
gathered in all kinds and sorts of places and all times and sorts of times...lots of
people knew who the alcoholics were so public anonymity outside of the program
was being trumped then. "Everyone knew" and I was the only one not telling that
I could guess about.

Go to the meeting most convenient and in time with support; again as Tired mentions
better solutions will be practiced.

We all had to start somewhere....good luck. (((((hugs))))) smile

newleaf66 · Veteran Member

Thanks for the input one and all. I like what Tired said about giving the disease more power. God knows I have already given away enough of my own power.
I have decided to go to the meeting in town tomorrow. My recovery needs to be about me, after all, and this will work best for me.

I will let you know how it goes. You people are a blessing today, thanks for being here.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

You got some great responses!

I only wanted to tell you I am so glad you are going to attend meetings. Good for you!

They will be glad you came believe me.

In support! love,debilyn

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

As anonymity is the basis of our program try and the trust the process , we only use first names and once yu get the hang of it we dont talk about them anyway , we talk about ourselves , this is about you for you . its ok to share your fears as well need to be reminded occasionally that anonymity is important . Perhaps if you told your husb that his drinking was causing YOU a problem he may not be offended I am sure you have been told that you were the one with the problem or that you over react . Your not accusing him of anything your just stating the facts , it is causing you a problem .. just a suggestion .

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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"