Yeah, I hear ya there - it is the memories that get us and it is the memories that have the "power" - they have the feelings that come with them.  I still have some things that are hard for me to accept sometimes about the past and growing up - like the fact that she was not able to guide me emotionally and she ignored my needs especially from 12 on up.  Guess she couldnt deal with me growing up - probably bc she never had support when she went through puberty and her teen years. 

Sometimes I cry and cry and just cant hardly believe it and other times, it is ok, I lived it and it doesnt have the power to upset me.  Think it has to do with me being able to accept it and forgive what was done... so I still have plenty more forgiveness to do.  That does help me put it into perspective, knowing that they all did the best they could at the time with what they had.  I know this is the truth today.

Listen, ur never gooing to not have any fear at all - it is a natural response, it is our body telling us something or showing us something.  Courage is doing it anyway - even though one is afraid, they move forward anyway - so dont be fooled by those courageous "looking" people out there, they are scared too, just ask them, they will say so.  It is about not allowing the fear to dominate your thoughts, its about doing what is healthier for you inspite of your fears.  Plus fear allows us to - have more awareness at times, so maybe it can come in handy that way too.  You may get a little burst of extra awareness when u feel the fear, try to see if you can get in touch with that asepct of it and see if that doenst make it easier. 
   The FEAR acronym always helped me too - future events arent real - so I can come back to right now and see what action I can take in that moment.  That is empowering for us!

I think in me, when a memory comes up with a laden feeling or possibly some unresolved emotions associated to it (the memory/scenario or person or circumstance) lots of times it is just so I can acknowledge the pain I was in at that time.  Then I get to work on what I can accept, what action can I take (forgiveness) and then it no longer has the power to dominate me but it can still come up and show me those old feelings.  If I am passed it, it cant hurt me, if it does bug me, I know there is still more work I can do.
   Sometimes it is about me and seeing I am trying to control or take responsibility for another's actions, or I was still blaming myself for their life choices and I get to acknowledge it was not mine to be accountable for (even tho they may have tried to convince me of that in the past).  I get to acknowledge my powerlessness over their lives and life choices and only own what I do have control over.  It wont ever be some one else's feelings, issues or consequences of their actions - no, I can only do that for me and when I release and surrender people or the past (in prayer, meditations and forgiveness) - I get more of me back and less of the disease to run my thoughts and life.

I really watch fear bc it comes up so frequently.  If I can get back to now and me, I can take action and alleviate the fear.  I work hard to focus on something else that I want to manifest and attract.  Fear and that pesky false guilt ran me for so long - today I acknowldege the fear and get busy and pray over as much control as I can stand to surrender and know that all I have to "do" is me!  Take care of YOU whatever that looks like!