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Evian · Veteran Member

Just venting is all

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Evian

It does sound as if you have hit a bottom. This is an important time to take care of yourself. Find face to face meetings in your community and attend--- break the isolation, get a sponsor, use the tools focus on yourself.

Please know that there is hope and help Keep coming here ,you can learn to live life with courage serenity and the wisdom of these room

Keep coming back

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Evian)))

Alcoholism is a sad, selfish, hideous disease. Sad because it takes the life blood out of families, selfish because it is a taker never a giver, and hideous because it is just that...... hideous.

For us to stay sane while living in the disease we have to take care of ourselves first. If we don't we can't take care of anyone or anything else. I like you live in the disease. It's not always easy. It's not always predictable. Sometimes it's hard to separate the person from the disease. To love the person that has a disease that you hate.

There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you feel. As stated in the opening of each Al-Anon meeting: "Without help it is to hard for most of us". Evian, as Hotrod said there is hope and help, and it can be found in the rooms of Al-Anon f2f meetings. If you are not attending meetings, find one in your area. If you are attending, please continue. Put the focus on yourself, learn how to detach, to set boundaries that will protect you and your children. Nothing is fair about alcoholism, nothing. We have to use all the tools of the program and by doing this our life can and will get better. Alcoholics seldom change. We have to change. Change our way of thinking. Change how we act, react, and don't react. These changes are for us, to protect us, and make our life better. The program works.

Regardless of your decision giving the program your best effort now and in the future will only pay dividends for you and your children. Bless you.

HUGS,
RLC

-- Edited by RLC on Sunday 30th of January 2011 01:12:54 AM

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

If your not already please find meetings for yourself , this board is good but your missing so much this prog has to offer by not attending a real meeting , you need support someone to answer a phone on a bad day , if nothing else do it for your kids they deserve one happy parent , my kids are the only reason I stayed in this program , Ilearned to become a better mom here , to tell my kids the truth without anger and fear . pass on what u learn here to your children all they want is the truth they dont need to know the nitty gritty stuff just the facts , when dad drinks too much etc.. your 8 yr old would learn alot from the book Whats Drunk Mama ? and if you have teens there is literature for them too written by teens Al-Anon prints these books ..

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

We can only stay in denial of being in a bad situation so long. I am sure your son saying that broke your heart. But it also made you realize the seriousness of the truth.

I remember second graders coming to school talking about their drunk fathers and or mothers and how scared they were.

It's hard to face what we know we have to do, its confusing. Change is so hard.

Can you get to meetings? Read literature? The more knowledge and tools you get the better you will feel. We get stronger, and we are able to make good decisions.

hugs,debilyn

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