I wish I knew how to swear in another language - Al-Anon Family Group

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

I wish I knew how to swear in another language

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

girl I do relate!

I can tell you with Al anon skills you can get passed the feelings you have.

When we really know their stuff is theres, not ours, we put up boundaries and protection it can be done.

Jen remember addicition killed my lovely first husband. I HATED drugs of any kind and it made me shiver to see any one drink. Even just dinner or a beer!

When I became strong in myself, it just did not matter. Does not matter. I have my own strong foundation, I take care of me.

The only thing I could lose is their company, which hurts of course. BUT quite different than other situations.

I do know too, that just becuz someone is an addict does not mean they are not a good person, worthy of my love and friendship! Not all A's are the same.

When I am around someone drinking I just learned to not take it as my own.

Would I marry an A, doubtful. BUT if I took a LOOOOOONG time and saw how they were, I might.

Some of my best women friends drink. Not drunks but they do drink.

I just want to let you know, we can open doors. We can work on things. This does not have to always be this way.

YOu are a strong sweet cookie. love,debilyn and give the mug a hug for me

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

To thine own self be true Jen...you are wide awake to the consequences...(((hugs))) smile

kath · Senior Member

Jenifer,

Thank you for sharing that song. It really touched my heart.

Kath

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

You know there is nothing like having a day to just be frutrated to get my hiney to figure out what is right for me.

1. Knowing how to swear in another language might make me feel better saying it but deep down I know it is still swearing. It's not usually right for me.

2. I believe my HP makes my path easier to follow than not, situations are not put before me to challenge me to grow but to enhance my growth. If a path is correct for me it will flow smoothly along for the most part.

3. 99% of the time I am grateful for what I do have and not wanting what I don't. That is a pretty good statistic.

Jen

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

Jen for me sometimes the F word is the only one that works for me .

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

I really like that. "The F word is the only word that works for me." That put a smile on my face.

As a recovering alcoholic here it took a couple of years for me to stop viewing alcohol as poison PERIOD. I now am able to see it is just poison for me because I have an allergy to it combined with an obsession to drink it. This is stuff from the AA program I learned.

I do think it's normal to have trepidation about drugs and alcohol and when you have directly been hurt and negatively affected by one or both. Glad you are being honest and glad you are healing.

Trudystar · Newbie

I love it. I have been on this fast for the last 3 weeks. One of the things that I gave up for the 3 weeks was cussing. lol I have not been in an argument because in order to be in an argument I found out I have to cuss. I am so glad that for the fast I decided to give up the cussing for the 3 weeks it gave me a change to really see what was going on and now I do not want to cuss. I really do like it, but I remember when I gave it up the last time and I had not cussed for years, and then I started back and once I did it was like an old friend that I found and now the old friend it gone again. Thank God.

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Pinkchip for pointing oput the honesty and healing aspects. Sometimes when I am venting or feeling like that day, it is easy to forget that all these feelings are healing in their own way. I lived long enough being dishonest to myself to not accept when I am feeling not my normal self.

Abbyal, i like the f one too sometimes but my stress reliever is usually s.o.b. ... my brother insists nobody can day that one better than me LOL

Trudy, I never cussed much anyway but I also tried really hard to give up any cussing when my brother's kids were born. He can teach them but I am not gonna! I found it interesting to have to stop and thinnk of what I really wanted to say instead of just an expletive. It does make life a little different.

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