Having an AH increases my amxiety symptoms - Al-Anon Family Group

looking_for_peace · Veteran Member

Having an AH increases my amxiety symptoms

DreamXL · Senior Member

Hi Looking, thank you for your post. You sound very clear an precise on what is happening in your life and the recognition and acceptance of what the future looks like. Keep on working on you, take one day at a time and no matter what your H does keep focusing on yourself. It's apparent that there is no need for the "we cant control others" reminder lol......sounds like your working on the one person you can , thank you :)

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Looking for peace,

sorry your stressed. Our health is of the upmost importance.

I suffered a minor stroke as the result of years of stress, from other factors, but most from living with an alcoholic that brought much stress into my life. After the stroke that was a real wake up call that I had to find a solution and that I was not superwoman with super powers.

Living with an alcoholic goes beyond and above expectations of ourself. It takes a lot of Alanon and a lot of practice. Detachment is an art to be cultivated and practiced. If your nerves and health can withstand it and if you feel your relationship is worth it and the circumstances are right. Whatever you decide is ok.

Nothing stays the same forever, but an alcoholic will only give you so much, its kind of like a one arm bandit, you put more in then you get back. Nothing will change it until the A decides to get into recovery and stop what hes doing and even that takes patience. Nobody can tell you when that will happen.
Until then take care of yourself and protect your life with everythng you have.

Keep coming back, Luv, Bettina

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

I, too, suffer anxiety and that 'fight or flight' syndrome when my AH gets out of hand. And drinking usually had nothing to do with it. He is more of a rageaholic to some degree so my immediate response is fear and 'get out'. I have found individual counseling excellent for helping me redirect my thinking and help me talk myself out of the fear, so to speak. I have never tried meds but I have tried taking GABA, B vitamins, and I try to exercise regularly. I also used to teach yoga and I find the relaxation strategies of yoga to be quite helpful to me.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hon, as crummy as I feel, I can tell you, the more we take a breath and change what we can, the more we see we can do it.

I am feeling that I KNOW I am working towards a better life, better time. simpler.

I thought it was here in this home, but it was killing me.

Of course making a huge change is hard! One thing I know for sure is taking your time, and doing a little at a time is a huge help. Preparing, thinking things out.

Some one here told me, you already know what is best. They were right.
I know you know what is best too.

sending you a hug, just ignore my puffy eyes... love,debilyn

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