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I have been working hard here since July 28th... And last night I decided I need some face to face time too. And I didn't have my kids or anything going on. So I went. My bf actually went to a meeting in the next room for him as well. I had already decided I was going no matter what, if he went to one or not. I wasn't sure if he would actually go, I Have heard him say he was going before so .... anyway, my meeting was great! I sat down and on the table were placed these cards with the slogans on them. One card per slogan... In front of me was placed "One Day at a time"... and "Let it begin with me" THanks HP! LOL. I looked at the group leader and said "thats just the ones I needed in front of me" and she smiled and said she was glad I was there. :) The meeting was about the first step. LOL... and our powerlessness and surrendering. Someone shared about their experience with surrendering... it was just awesome. I shared too, it was hard because of my adhd I have trouble gathering my thoughts and saying stuff without feeling all jarbled up. I know its good for me to share though so I did. After our meeting was over, I went out into the main room where AA was. My bf was talking to another member with a huge smile on his face. It really warmed my heart and he got a big book, and a bunch of phone numbers. :) Tonight there is another joint meeting in another town and place. I already told him I was going, and he said "I want to go too" He actually called one of the guys today and the guy had already invited him to come tonight :) I got a cool CD to listen to in the car, a speaker meeting, where the woman talked about her journey in alanon--for 43 years. It was amazing to me to hear that today on my ride in. Tomorrow is another meeting for alanon in the morning about 2 blocks from my house. I will probably go to that as well. Just because I love how I feel after the meeting and I figure, if I go more, I will probably feel that much better? I am grateful I have you all here and my sponsor who has pointed me in the right direction time and time again... Thank you all! I am so excited and happy to be here :) Sunfowergirl
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You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. -Buddha
The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exsist. Ours only is the present's tiny point. -Mahmud Shabistanri
It is such a pleasure to work with you everyday. YOU are doing it, WTG. Yes it gets better. Keep doing what works and keep empowering yourself. Then if it is too much or u get distracted, hand it over to HP and pray for them and let HP take the reigns.
So wonderful to see you grow and ur willingness to share with us all here! Keep at it, ur worth it and more! Rock on and feel as fabulous as you can, it is within you, own it and stay (as the dog whisperer says:) "calm and assertive" and watch those ripple effects with no expectations lol.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
I've been told one or two meetings a week are for maintenance, three or more are for growth.
Good on you getting out of the house and to some f2f meetings.
I do enjoy the stepping stone MIP provides for Al-Anon members, but it's an easy "out", too, for those of us in the nasty habit of isolating ourselves. There is a massive difference between gathering face-to-face with other people and just sitting by myself at my computer pecking away at the keys.
Aloha Sunflower and yay for you!! double yay!! keep doing what the winners are doing and you will get what the winners get...Awsome. Get through the door of Al-Anon and hold it open for the person coming up behind you. Your HP is working with you. (((((hugs)))))
I've been to 3 F2F meetings so far. I went to one tonight. My ABF went to an AA meeting at the same location. He was feeling really worthless over a comment I made about giving him money while he was using. It wasn't a bad comment. I just said I gave him money. He got really quiet and gave me the silent treatment. We drove to our meetings in silence. I felt bad. In my alanon meeting I shared about speaking with out thinking. How I was scared he would relaspe because he took something the wrong way and he felt bad. After his meeting he felt better. He shared at his meeting to about how he is emotionally fragile right now.
I am glad that I went to the meeting tonight. Do you attend open AA meetings also?
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Take it one day at a time. If that is too much take it a minute at a time.
Early in my recovery I went to open AA meetings alone they gave me hope that maybe just maybe my husb could find so peace from this terrible disease but after awhile I thought those meetings were still about HIM and frankly I was tired of every thing being about him so i started adding more meetings for myself Al-Anon , I enjoy listening to AA speakers at conventions but I am not an alcoholic I belong in this program its about me for me ..Please remember that your not powerful enough to make anyone drink nothing you say will cause him to drink he has a bit of sobriety drinking will now be a choice he makes .. something Ilike is say what you mean , mean what you say but dont be mean when you say it , I understand your need to talk to him about his past but it will only hurt him ,and you will end up feeling guilty , who needs it ? talk to al anons about your resentments and anger they will understand and no one gets hurt .
sunflower!!! I'm so happy you had a good meeting! I lost you....I forgot to write down your info and probably gave you the wrong one for me...I am so happy to hear about all of your good news...I'm going to my first F2F on Tuesday...hope it goes as well as yours did! I hope to talk to you soon!
