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One day at a time right? Today was a good day. Something happened yesterday while reading responses here and hearing from my wonderful sponsor.... I became aware of what you have all been telling me all along. To set boundaries they have to be for me and there cannot ever be an expectation that those said boudaries will make someone else change what they are doing. I realized there is NOTHING I can do to change another free thinking adult's ways. Nothing. I can only change me, me, me. I am beginning to be able to look at my own pain for what it is: something that happened to me when I was a child, that yes was painful and awful, and is something I can deal with and heal from. It is not a big monster in the closet anymore. With the help of step 4 I am beginning to be able to sit with that pain for a bit at a time and realize its not going to get me. This program really does work when you work it. When I changed my perspective yesterday afternoon, and came home and didn't say a word to my bf, just my total switch in energy change had occured, he came to me and said "I am sick and tired of feeling this way, I am going to AA" Out of the blue. I had a one word sentence for him: "OK". I listened to him for a small amount of time while he apologized for drinking again the other day, and said "Ok" again. Smiled. And then I went on with what I needed to get done. And then I went to bed. He came in and asked for a hug. It amazed me because when I did everything for me, and came home in that new energy, he really did see it. And I changed for me. And I didn't place an expectation on him. I know I have been here since July 28th. And I know that you have all been telling me all of this since then. I believe you and I hear you so well now :) Thank you HP for guiding me, thank you all for responding to me, and thank you sponsor so much!
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You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. -Buddha
The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exsist. Ours only is the present's tiny point. -Mahmud Shabistanri
Easy does it , sun . wow you sure have alot of expectations for yourself did you really think you would have it all by now .. your doin great your only in this program for a few months your willing to change , willing to go to meetings for yourself , you have an open mind and a sponsor ,ya got all thats required to work this . I have been here for a very long time and I am still learning , your going to have alot of light bulb moments enjoy ~~
We all get it (diferent parts of the program) when it is time for us to get it. Sometimes it's "not reacting", sometimes it's choosing our words correctly, or only listening.
I enjoy reading your posts and seeing your growth in the program. Your post today was a perfect example.
I get all smiley and giggly inside when I watch miracles start to happen...and my spirit goes YAY!! and my inner child runs around and around shouting, "I want some, I wan't some!!" and it causes me to want to stay around like Louise says so I can grow some more. Thank you...I think I'll keep coming back. (((Snflwr)))
did you really think you would have it all by now .. your doin great your only in this program for a few months your willing to change , willing to go to meetings for yourself , you have an open mind and a sponsor ,ya got all thats required to work this . I have been here for a very long time and I am still learning , your going to have alot of light bulb moments enjoy ~~
