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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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This morning there was an article in the paper...my exAH has been suspended from his job pending investigation. I know his situation is not my problem, and let me tell you, I am so grateful that it isn't!
However, it did dredge up a lot of feelings...I am very ashamed of things I did/accepted when I was in that relationship. Some things I've forgiven myself for and some things I conveniently don't think about too much. :)
I guess I'm just reminding myself and anyone else who needs a reminder that sometimes one day at a time is too much...sometimes you have to take it one hour at a time. Or a minute at a time. That's all we can do.
Today I'm trying to be gentle with myself. I'm trying to keep in mind that I am worthy of love from myself and others.
I'm right there with you, Phoe. I came home to a passed out husband! I just hoped he'd stay passed out but, nonetheless, Goliath awoke...LOL. Now I have two babies to deal with, 7 months and 34 years. :)
Thanks for the reminder, one minute at a time it is, tonight!
You hit the nail right on the head ! somedays i can do one day at a time Then there are the days it is one hour or one minute at a time. great post Blessings
They say we do the best we can with the tools we have. I too have regrets about unacceptable behaviour that I accepted, looking back does not help. To make amends to myself I am trying to take better care of myself to day.
Thanks, everyone. Today is definitely a better day. I have gotten to a place where I can be sad for the exAH...no more anger, no more resentment (mostly). It helps that I have been blessed with an amazing husband. He's in recovery, working his program, and he totally gets it, which helps.
Tracy, you're right about doing the best you can with what you have. When I look back now, I wonder how I ever could have made certain decisions or accepted things that I now know I didn't have to accept...but back then I didn't have a program and I was just trying to get through each day as best I could. Keep being good to yourself!
Thanks for the share, its a good reminder. I find myself in one hour at a time, quite often, today is one of them.
Every now and then something will happen that brings me back to things over 20 years ago, and it will feel fresh. Part of my recovery is to forgive myself. I made a lot of mistakes in the past, and still make them today. A lot of my mistakes was when I was a kid in survival mode.
I have to be gentle with that kid, ... me a long time ago. She didn't have the tools to always make good choices.
