The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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I started going to meetings a little over a year ago and stopped going about 6 months ago (got married and moved). Life's been great, but I really missed going to meetings so I'm back at my old group (we only moved to the next town).
Anyway, I never got a sponsor back when I started going to meetings but I think maybe I should.
I've heard it said to"look for someone who has what you want". I was not actively looking for a sponsor, but knew I needed one, and there was a new woman at our meeting.. She shared, and I knew she was the one. Without giving myself time to talk myself out of it, I went straight up to her after the meeting and just asked. "Hi, I'm Lou. Will you sponsor me?" That simple. It turned out to be a wonderful choice. Getting a sponsor took my recovery to a new level.
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Every new day begins with new possibilities. It's up to us to fill it with the things that move us toward progress and peace. ~ Ronald Reagan~
Sometimes what you want to do has to fail, so you won't ~Marguerite Bro~
Hi Phoe, I don't have one either. I've gone to meetings for a few years and since our meetings our small, I never met the right person to sponsor me. I know I would grow more in my steps and just in general. I like the previous comment and how easy she made getting a sponsor. Best of luck in choosing the right one; I know it will help you.
I also heard it the way Lou mentioned it and that is how I did it...looked for members with time who had the growth and recovery (at least in sections) that I wanted and then asked. Never was turned down. Getting too picky about a sponsor is a trap for me...It's my procrastination, fear, and lack of trust. It sets me up to blame the program and God and others when things are not working out for me (because I haven't been working at it myself). I recently got a new sponsor. My past sponsor lives out of town and rarely comes into town and into meetings. Part of the relation- ship slipped and that's not good new for me. I asked another person who has a solid understanding of recovery and more natural esteem while being real and humble.
Program suggest having a sponsor and I have one. I rarely if ever fool around with "strict" rather than wide qualifications after all in this relationship I'm not going to be the lead.
