The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It has been months since I've regularly visited the message boards. My heart aches at all the sadness we have in our lives. My heart aches at all the sadness in my friends and families lives.
Right now, this minute...I am declaring a renewed spirit within my heart! Thank You, Jesus for giving me restored faith!
There is no doubt about it, my A Hubby is out of control of his life. There is no doubt about it, I am losing control of my life by allowing myself to be angry and bitter over his recklessness.
I feel it necessary to remind myself of the tools I first learned at Alanon.
* one day at a time and you can start your day over anytime you want * stay active * anonymity - only talk to those in alanon about what is going on in my life * no major decisions decisions for 6 months * go to meeting * go to church * have faith * pray pray
the ex A who I was with wreaked tremendous havoc in my life. He destroyed our finances, home, belongings and eventually severely neglected our dogs. I was lucky enough to find this room and start practising the tools. I took it one day at a time, I got very very busy on my own life and I started moving out of the way of the wreckage. These days I no longer have to clean up his messes, wonder what the truth is (the lies were everyday), worry about what's next, wonder how I will survive.
I am glad you made it back to this board. I hope you will stick around for a while.