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sdisnie


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One thing about the principles of Al-anon is that really everyone should use them, not just those who are affected by addicts.....I have totally detached from my A for the time being...mostly because he's been laying low...(Thank God!) but now I'm dealing with a crazy person who is not an A....but could be. 

She has sent me crazy texts and emails and saying such horrible things to me, making me feel bad and guilty and I have decided to not respond to her at all.  I don't know if that is the right thing to do...but what else can I do?  I don't want to engage in this back and forth crap and I really shouldn't have to.  I have to detach from her situation and just turn that over to God and still work on me.  I cannot get caught up with her and the things she says....so I'm working on that.  I hope that not responding is the best thing I can do??

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Debilyn


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Shanda this is toxic, good for you for not playing.

Emails can be blocked from your email program. Also you can have her blocked from your cell phone.

Even reading her poison can make you sick.

Glad to hear of your progress! hugs,debilyn

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ythannah


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Yep, I keep saying this is more a program for living than just a program for recovery.  The Al-Anon tools can sure be useful in dealing with non-A's.

Good for you for refusing to engage!

Sometimes I think these sorts of occasions get put in our path to allow us to practice our skills. aww

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Jerry F


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S...here you can use this tool or keep it in fact I've got others.....
"Don't React"...."Keep (that) it Simple".   I use the delete function
on my keyboard alot.    ((((hugs)))) smile

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sunflowergirl


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Shanda, I had days like that with certain people who would try to engage me in text battles. It ends up that when I stopped responding and reacting, they stopped texting. My sponsor told me I can choose who I want to play a game with, and what game too. I can choose to not put my game piece on the board, put it in my pocket and walk away. You did just the right thing :) And using alanon in all my affairs is what I do as well :) Remember too: "Remain Calm". One of the slogans that helped me in those crazy times...

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flinn66


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Absolutely

Its taken me time but I have now learned to turn my phone 'off' and how to block and delete. It is not just my A that can upset me - last week I was getting endless demanding texts from my employer during my days off and feeling stressed - turned phone off and serenity returned - joy!


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