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Oh Gosh!  It's been a long time since I've been here.

All the post are so familiar with what I've been going through with my active AH.

I'm married to two men.

1. A loving man who works the program
2. A sick man who is a wreck less jerk

Right now, I hate them both!

Back to the drawing board for me! 

No major decisions for 6 months!
Stash as much $$$ away as possible.
(did i mention he blew his retirement in the last year)

Set healthy boundaries.  Focus on me!

And OMG - the hardest one of all - if I'm gonna say it, say it nicely.
Right now I do not have any nice words in my vocabulary when he is in the same house as me.

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With love in recovery, 

Sincerely
member922


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Familiar to me as well.

Sounds like you are getting a plan together and working on your sanity. I wish you the best!

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Bettina


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Wow, that blowing of his retirement is a hard one. That affects both of you and your future.

Glad you have a plan and are stashing away money.

The setting of the boundaries and focusing on yourself, that is important for you right now.

Sounds like your on the right track.

Wishing you strength and courage to really follow thru.

Luv, Bettina

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tlcate


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Glad to see you back!  Well, we missed you - but not glad you are still suffering with the behavior of your A.

That is the HARDEST thing for me too, saying what I mean without being mean.  By the time he pushed me to tell him what I thought I had been pushed too far and let him have it!

We will learn together!

tlc

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Jerry F


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Just some suggestions for the drawing board?  Add...

. Get to meetings
. Get as much literature as you can and read it all
. Find a Sponsor and a Power Greater than yourself
. Learn and work the steps, traditions and slogans
. Do service for others who are new comers and your meetings
. Practice....Practice....Practice.

(((((hugs))))) smile

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