The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I had a fantastic sponsor about a year ago. When my A and I reconcilled I started going to a big book study as I saw a difference it made for him. I met a man who became his sponsor recently and the man's wife that ended up becoming my new sponsor. Things went downhill quickly for me. I was working an AA program and dealing with lots of gossip with my new sponsor. I began to see lots that bothered me.
I went back to my home group and left the AA big book study behind. I started once again working my own program and things have picked up tremendously. I got rid of the old sponsor about a couple of months ago. I instantly felt better that the triangle was over of my A and I having a husband and wife as our sponsors. There is lots more that I was uncomfortable with, but I don't need to detail that here.
I spoke to my old sponsor tonight that I see once a week at my home group and talk with on the phone regularly. I asked her if she would consider sponsoring me again if she had the time now or in the future. She graciously accepted and I am so elated. We start in two weeks doing step work together again. We meet before our regular meeting.
What a relief!!!!!! I am so grateful I am just beside myself.
So happy for you I have left my home group and been building new relationships trying to identify a new sponsor. I have started chatting to some one who I think may be a possible sponsor. Like you I need someone who has a little more knowledge to help me work through these steps. I have been supported online also by someone from this forum. I do not want my recover to slow because i know how much work I have to do.
I have close friends in AA due to my partner having aprogramme and have attended conventions etc with this group of people but I to have idetified that my programme is stronger when I mix with al anoners and totally keep my focus on myself and my programme.
