Well its funny how easy it can be to detach from an ex A.....when they are out of sight....out of mind.  Easy as pie for me.  Have had no contact with him whatsoever, the kids refuse to answer his texts (and that's all he does is text...no phone call...chicken $h)t)  Our oldest son is home for two weeks from the Navy....last time he was here the ex A was so drunk we had to spend almost a week sobering him up so he could see him.  Now he'll text asking to see him...and son doesn't respond...(i'm sure this is all my fault too, even tho son is 20 and an adult and can choose what he wants to do)

Anway....its so sad that I can be SO happy when he's just not here, not around...the kids and I are doing great, it's peaceful.  I wish it could be like this ALL the time...but i know sooner or later he'll come out of hiding and try something.  I heard through my grapevine today that he plans to go back to court to try to pay me less child support, because he got a different job that pays less......not to mention he got himself into some serious debt with his medical bills from his binging.  This brought me down immediately.  I started stressing about it, wondering what he's up to, what he's going to try to pull.  Our divorce was only final this past February, so I don't know what all he can do....I have to try to not let it get to me...but once he's back in my mind or i hear of him scheming out there....there I go crashing again.  I know I have to work on those tools to not let him get to me...but I'm still human.