The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I've recently gotten out of a relationship, the first since my divorce in 2008. In fact, the only other Love I've had.
I am so hurt that he ended it with me. Well, you know what they say... hurt people hurt people. The temptation for revenge has been enormous, my brain has come up with some delicious ideas for revenge! Once that passes, my brain would, at the very least, like to now consider him a "bad" person, which will help ME to move on... if I focus on all of HIS shortcomings and defects, I might be able to let go.
It's obvious my dis-ease is alive and well. I really don't want to be that person. I don't want to hate him, or anyone. I want to sit through the grief with Higher Power.
An old-timer gave me this resentment prayer to use every time these thoughts come up, which is putting the focus right where it belongs:
"God, bless him... and help me."
Without this program of recovery, I'm not so sure I wouldn't have acted on my "delicious" plans. I am full of gratitude. I'll keep coming back, my HP isn't finished with me yet. Thanks for listening.
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
Great share and awareness responding rather than reacting less likely to have regrets. I am better at this on some occassions compared to other. Hope your grief is short lived and you find peace and happiness. when I hav a rsentment I write it out and tell the person how i feel about them I cry scream what ever it takes to feel and express the hurt. Then I write down all the things I have done or would like to do to get revenge. Then finally I write down what will happen if I do this the cost the outcome this helps me to makwe better choices that i ca liv with. thanks again for a great share
