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I'm not sure, but I think my entire mind and body is feeling complete overwhelming anxiety.  I helped my daughter with her homework when she got home, I've been picking up around the house, ran to get milk and dog food, talked with the kids, going to a meeting tonight, but my head is feeling dizzy, my eyes burning, my stomach in knots, my whole body tense, can't eat......is this anxiety, am I going to have a nervous breakdown at some point?  I haven't cried today! I have not spoken or had to deal with the A other than him sending my friend a message saying I won't talk to him....so what is the deal with me?

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Do not hesitate to make an appointment with your doctor.

When my body began to suffer panic symptoms due to the effects of my fear, anxiety, struggle, and not trusting the process of life, etc. I went for acupuncture, for 6 weeks. I also use affirmations to help in my healing.*

It's okay to ask for help (((Shanda))) Take care of yourself during this difficult time



* Affirmations from Louise Hay: (Take what you like...)

"I open my heart and create only loving communication. I am safe. I am well."

"I am on an endless journey through eternity and there is plenty of time. I communicate with my heart. All is well."

"I love and approve of myself and I trust the process of life. I am safe."





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I wish I could do that, but i'm uninsured! I have no health insurance on myself and I can't afford it, so therefore I don't go to the doctor anymore.....being married for 20 years and then covered under him....I never had to worry about that. just another bad part of divorce.

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Shanda, what you are feeling could be so many things, maybe you picked up a virus, maybe something didn't digest correctly, maybe it is all the stress, etc.

Does not matter if you have had to deal with your A or not. He is your kids dad. He is someone you love very much who is sick.

Just becuz you are choosing to stay away from him, does in no way mean you do not care!

You are thinking of making some major changes in your life and the kids. Moving is a huge stress good or bad.

There is no such thing as a nervous breakdown. It used to be what people (men) said when women lost their temper, or had had it with whatever was happening, or crying uncontrollably.
It also could have been used to describe a panic attack. Used to be women showing high emotions was considered they were weak, they were not sane, they were losing control.

One of the biggest complaints of people who are affected by the A's disease is digestive complaints. When we are upset, perceiving a threat, our body puts out adreneline. When we "hold it in, get that fight or fligh feeling, that adreneline pours into our digestive system, that is the stress docs talk of." Stress can kill you. It is like poison.

It is hard for our bodies to digest when we are all twisted up. The natural peristalsis or basically waves in our gut that move the food along and or waste is goes awry. scuze me if I spell things wrong.

So there is the Diarrea, nausea feeling, uptight, I feel that almost feeling like I am going to barf feeling when I am anxious, along with other stuff.

What I learned thru Al Anon is the anti stressors. Thats why I mentioned week end day trips or eve little goes to ice cream or whatever.

Maybe your kids and you could volunteer for Habitat for Humanity. Or go volunteer at an animal shelter walking dogs and or holding cats and pocket pets.

I learned the simple stuff got me thru. I walked the dogs at this shelter. I would tie about five or six long leashes so they could run. Brushed them and taught them obediance. I would sit out in the grass and cry with them.

Movement will help bottled up stress. HOnestly shanda, woman with beautiful kiddo's, I think going to the dump and getting hay last week helped me so darn much.

Gives ya endorphins for one thing, fresh air, challenge. Believe me driving a 78 Chevy pick up with a door that won't latch shut, window won't roll up, signals don't work is a challenge! haha.

I am not feeling anxiety now. Just sorta serene, hopeful, faithful. When we are proactive it really does help. Even if we just walk a block at first slow, just moving helps.

You very tender and broken. YOu are healing, but a half healed broken leg does not make it whole yet.

Coming here and sharing is major too, we need to get it out. I would feel I needed to cry so just would for a little. Sometimes at night when I am talking to HP I cry.

I am so glad you are here. I am so happy to know ya! hugs,debilyn

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It all can be overwhelming, I suffered panic attacks for a short period and got xanex from my Dr. to get me thru a really rough period.

It was bottled up stress, its better if you can cry and get it out, and LynnDebi is right there is no such thing as a nervous breakdown.

You need to find an outlet such as excercise that you enjoy, I oined a Tai Chi group, I went and got accupuncture. I walked. Went to Alanon meetings, confided in one friend and would call, you need to talk....

Wishing you strength and courage...

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Thank you thank you thank you thank you all.....I love reading what everyone has to say, all the advice, all the wisdom, all the stories.....it's what keeps me going. I appreciate each and every one of you!

Debilyn....I get the Chevy thing...while my Chevy isn't that old...it is paid off (yeah!) but there's all these little issues with it, I have to keep pliers in my cup holder to release the brake...haha

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(((((sdisnie)))))) I am thinking of you! :)

I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

Is there anything you can do to relax...try and focus on something else, calm...peace. Yoga maybe? Meditation?

I have never had digestive problems before - Lyndebi mentioned above they are the most common.

I have them now...on and off.

When things are bad here, or when I really stressed out, like I've never been before this alcoholism! ... I have horrible Diarrea, I'm nausea, I feel a weird pain like deep in my stomach (hard to explain), I sometimes feel like I'm going to puke. It's awful. Something I've never experienced before.

It's messed up how stress cause physically effect us and our bodies so much.

I hope you find a way to de-stress and relax.

I will be thinking of you:) Take care of YOU!!!

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Shanda, another energy technique you may find very useful for anxiety and panic, is Acupressure.... which you would apply to yourself. I would be happy to email this information, if you like. (((hugs)))

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I have dealt with panic attacks for almost 30 years of my life. Daily, for no reason, from PTSD. CHildhood trauma. Along with that came depression, anxiety, and IBS. Also I have ADHD, so everything is just a big mess in there. I am working it out as I work with my sponsor though. My panic attacks since joining alanon have lessened. When they do come, I am gaining the tools I need to calm down. Taking a bath, reading, going on MIP, etc. Talking with my sponsor. All help distract my mind so I can calm down. Settling in and reading a book with my youngest child who is 8. Watching a silly movie with the kids, having a game night... All things to distract the mind. Take care ofyou!

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I have dealt with panic attacks for almost 30 years of my life due to PTSD from childhood trauma. But I managed to keep symtoms hidden from people (including myself) for many of those 30 years until I got into recovery 6 years ago. The symptoms of panic have calmed a lot but when they return I find them exhausting. Feeling tense with anxiety and trying to keep it hidden in the workplace is exhausting. The last 2 days have being v stressful for me at work with doing my best to appear 'normal'. The person I considered my closest friend directed rage & frustration my direction 5/6 days ago and I was shocked. It was so sudden & unexpected and I know I wasnt the reason for her anger. She is going through a lot the last few weeks in her family but not confiding in me so I feel so distant from her now. I feel afraid of her rage. But I also miss her company. There is no contact between us at the minute and I dont know if we can ever reconnect the way we were. I feel lonely and anxious as I write this. And powerless also. Its hard to sit with these feelings in my body


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I have serious issues with anxiety.....I have had attacks so bad that I prayed for the sweet relief of death rather than one more moment of pure torture.
Obviously there are different extremes to anxiety. I just have to manage mine on a daily basis or I am completly non functional.
I don't have insurance either but my Dr works with me on costs.
You may just be feeling overwhemled right now which is different than an anxiety attack,
We are in one of the most stressful times of the year with the holidays.
One of the things i do now when I feel panic coming ( and I never know what triggers it) is I pray and meditate until I am able to feel at peace.
I wish you all the best
Blessings

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I think you are right. I am feeling overwhelmed at the minute and I will go now pray and try relax until I feel at peace. Ive spent the last 2 days feeling afraid of the anxiety in my body, scared the panic attacks are returning. And like you, Ive had attacks so bad that I prayed for the relief of death rather than another minute of pure torture. I just got scared I was going back to them days. Thats what FEAR can do
Blessings
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I use to feel a ton of anxiety also when I was withdrawing from my alcoholic wife and
the insanity of living that way...Yes we do go into withdrawals also.   ((((hugs)))) smile

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When my anxiety kicks in, it helps me to get outdoors, read some CAL, call a program friend, or exercise. When my panic attacks first started, I saw a therapist and that really helped. I've been prescribed medication (Xanax) and don't take it as often as I did in the beginning - now it's on an "as needed" basis.

If you can't afford to go to a doctor, I know most communities offer free mental health evaluations, so you may want to get online and look into it - sometimes talking with people who are feeling the same way as you really helps (it did for me).

Good luck and God Bless!

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I went through these symptoms in the past & my doctor prescribed Xanax then. I wouldnt have being able to get into work without them. And I had to as my marriage had broken up, I was out there trying to survive with two children. So scary. But this time I dont want take xanax. I felt I became dependent on them before. This time I want to go through my feelings of anxiety without numbing them. It is not easy. Its very uncomfortable. Im going to a local womens group today. I dont feel like going but I'll make myself. And get meetings this weekend. I feel Im in withdrawal from my AF. And it feels horrible. Doubys keep slipping back in that 'This too shall pass'.

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