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Hi, this is Kath. Have been gone for a while due to computer malfunction. Just wanted to ask you guys to keep family and I in your prayers. We were involved in a hit and run accident this weekend. No one was severly injured, in which I am thankful.
After the accident I did have feelings of guilt and thinking that if I had only... then .... I quickly called my sponsor. She reminded me that I did not cause the accident.
I have not ever practiced the Al Anon tools toward a situation like this and it took me a while to turn my thoughts around after the accident. How easy it was for me to revert back to guilt. These feelings are not comfortable for me anymore, so it didn't take a long while to turn them around(as in days, weeks, months)!!
I was embarrassed after it had happened because I felt like a victim when the person that hit my car just drove away. It was scary, too. I had feelings telling me I was stupid for letting that happen, and that I should have..................ad infinitum!!
(((((Kath))))) how so program to call your sponsor and get into be fixed!! You're going to get even better because you're working it. In support (((((hugs)))))
This program most assuredly works in all aspects of our lives. Please know my prayers are with you and family and am so glad you are all unijured. Surpisingly enough it was 2 car accidents that eventually brought me into this program ( aside from my son of course) I should never had walked away from either accident, neither were my fault. The first one a kid ran a stop sign I saw it at the last moment and tried to move over into the other lane where luckily no oncoming traffic was coming but he hit me anyway, put my car into a spin then was sliding sideways until my car started to roll, My car rolled 2 1/2 times I landed upside down. And all I could think of was did I do something wrong, did i miss a stop sign etc. I did nothing wrong but ended up with surviors guilt and PTSD despite the fact i was the only one in the car. I was injured but couldn't have my neck operated on until we settled with the insurance company. Then I had neck surgery....and although i was suffering from PTSD I was able to keep it under control as i convinced myself that kind of accident was a once in a lifetime things. 3 years later same thing happened a guy ran a stop light t-bones me right in the intersection...wow PTSD came back full force. I fought it as long as I could I really did but what that accident did to me was take me right back into my childhood days where i was abused severly and all of a sudden I was that scared little girl again where danger lurked everywhere for me. I struggled for two yrs trying to fight it but it finally took me over completly until I wasn't even functional anymore. Danger lurked around every corner panic set in then depression...couldn't bring myself to go to work and eventually couldnt even bring myself to leave my home. I literally became a shell of a person for 2 years until alanon. I came here for my son but I had to get myself healthy first and the loving people here gave me my life back, gave my husband his wife back and gave my children thier mother back. I had been on every medication out there, been to therapy etc...nothing helped till I hit these doors. And I am beyond greatful that this program does work in all aspects of my life. Blessings to you and family
The ex A did two hit and runs. I don't know what the outcome was of the last one. His attorney tried to get it reduced to leaving the scene of an accident.
