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tlcate


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That was something my brothers used to say to me and I swear God said it to me too just recently.

I was on here complaining and feeling bad . . . over nothing.

Tap tap tap in the middle of my forehead . . . "Tricia, are you listening?"

I am all geared up to go to my first Friday night meeting in the new city.  7:30pm we are in the emergency vet with a VERY sick dog.  Looks like parvo, but I don't think it is . . . but if you've seen parvo you know how bad it is.  My dog is hurting, my daughter is hurting and I am hurting.  We are waiting for the vet and the dog is lying on the table miserable and I am on one side and the girl on the other.   Surrounding the little guy with love.

Vet comes in, we discuss the situation, they do tests, not really sure what is going on.  Then they hand me the "immediate" bill - the minimum it is going to be.

$1000.  Due at the time of services - no exceptions.  At that point I lose it.  I am just bawling.  I had just paid my first mortgage payment that day.  Now I won't be able to cover it.

It is all going to be ok.  I will figure out the finances, I always do.  This was a wake up call.  On the way home in the car my gratitude kicks in.

HP: "Just wanted to make sure you were paying attention."

Me:  "Hear ya, loud and clear.  Thanks for going easy on me, could have been much worse.  I will pay more attention."

Things are fine.  My life is good.  I got the attitude adjustment I needed.  As of yesterday the little guy's health is improving, still not sure what it is.  Ok vet just called - I get to go pick him up!  I am so excited.  Can't pronounce what they said he has, but it translates to those Dr. visits we have where they say - "you have a virus and it will run it's course.  Pay on your way out."  My kid is away and I miss my little guy!  I can't wait to give him a bath and cuddle on the couch for movie time!  I am sure he won't be up for a walk, but maybe tomorrow!  I am SOOOO happy he is going to be ok.

I am blessed.  It is amazing how we can lose sight of things sometimes.

tlc


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RLC


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(((tlc)))

I'm happy for your little dog, and I'm happy for you and your daughter. Another reminder to me and others to look for and find, as you did, the good in all things.

I just gave Ellie & Daisy my Black Labs a hug.

And Hugs To You And Yours,
RLC

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I read the title to your post and I jumped straight up.  I thought you were channeling
my mother...Chicken skin!!   You made a decision after the fear and now things are
good.  There were tons of other decisions you could have made and you made this
one and loving the consequences.  I say that is what I learned in program also and
it works with acceptance.   God that title is still scary...PTSD....Put That Switch Down!!

((((hugs)))) smile

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Wow, flash from the past! My mother used to say that to me...needless to say, it only made me cry harder.
But back to the subject at hand-good for you for being aware of all the good things in life you have to be grateful for instead of focusing on the negative. So glad to hear your little guy is going to be okay. Like RLC, I just gave my guys (golden retrievers, Jack and Oso) a big hug. Thanks for the reminder on looking at the good side and paying attention to HP.

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glad lee


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LOL, your title is my parents talking too!!

I would probably have to fire HP for talking like that to me, and I would have to invent a new one!!

I am very happy to hear your little guy is better. The bath, the cuddle, the movie.... all sound like sacred time together. You know how to live large in recovery, I love it. (((hugs)))



p.s... I was reading BB last night, the chapter in back titled, "Grounded"... your post title would be an appropriate one for that story...... !!

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lyndebi


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Those Ca. vets are so dang expensive. They are taking advantage.

I am glad you are all ok.

Your attitude is good.

My sons dog went thru the horrible stomach turning thing. Seventeen hundred. crazy. we all pitched in.

I wish I would have asked the symptoms when you said he was sick.

rrrrrr

huggen ya, debilyn

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Oh man. I, too, heard that saying a million times as a kid, it seems!

I understand what you wrote. I heard someone speak in a meeting not all that long ago about this - how when life is bad and we think HP hates us and has created us to be a crap magnet, it is certainly possible for HP to send us a little lesson about how things are really never as bad as they could be and how counting one's blessings is a good thing.

Soooo glad your little doggie is okay! Prayers for you and your family!



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Vets are always ripping people off! I am glad that you took the experience as a positive.

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