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Just found out my AA sister is being forced to go into rehab. Trying to find out more, just posting for T-Day support. Also beginning to see (thanks to Getting Them Sober) how huge and far-reaching the personal aspects of living in an A family are for all of us in my family group, and how these traits will be passed on to my kids if I don't educate myself.
So glad to have MIP today, and Happy T-Day to all - I wish you all the best day!
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"It isn't what happens to us that matters, but how we choose to interpret it and react."
That's good news.....I wish her and you well. Funny, in the past, before Alanon...I always saw going into a rehab as a bad thing (well I guess it does mean something bad was happening previously) and had the typical societal view of such people. Now I see it as a blessing and something to celebrate for their family and them. It's a hard choice to admit you need help. I hope it works out.
The story unfolds. My sister got another DUI and had to go to jail recently, as I found out. This is why she has to go to rehab. She was not happy about rehab idea, and was in a deep despair about it - how the drinking has become a pit she cannot get out of, how she missed T-Day with the family because of it, how it is ruining her marriage.
Her husband took her to his parents' house for T-Day, I think maybe hoping to have support and also get her away from her stashes and corner store supplier, and she at some point in the evening got into his parents' liquor cabinet and totally overdid it. She was passed out and walking, and fell down the stairs.
At the hospital, the doctors were surprised she was still alive with her blood alcohol being what it was. She also has a complicating blood condition, which makes this twice as dangerous a health situation. So now she is under supervision at the hospital, and I'm not sure if this is just an alcoholic binge, or a suicide attempt by alcohol?
I tried to talk to her about it after my visit to her house in October, but she denied havng any drinking problem. I knew better than to believe her, but also knew I couldn't force her to get help.
I hope her detox goes well and that after, she is able to want rehab for herself - I suspect it's court mandated - and that she can get a different life going. Her H, who goes bar-hopping with friends regularly, has to be willing to change his own lifestyle too if he wants to stay with her - that is, if she is able to insist on staying sober after rehab.
Very worried about her, and very thankful I have a copy of "Getting Them Sober" to help me figure out what I can do and to offer support to my family.
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"It isn't what happens to us that matters, but how we choose to interpret it and react."
I must be a pretty codependent person - I feel SO guilty having a good T-Day when my sister is in such a horrible place in her life. Trying to figure out how to stop feeling responsible for everyone and everything around me. My family is trying to be more honest about our AA family members and how they're doing. I'm so thankful they're actually talking with me about it instead of glossing it over or pretending this or that family member is "sick/ flu".
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"It isn't what happens to us that matters, but how we choose to interpret it and react."
