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I managed to survive yesterday's early Thanksgiving celebration. AH drank as anticipated, but for the most part I was able to detach. He drank quite a bit of wine, as that is what he reeked of the most when I would be near him. There were a couple of times he tried to get me to drink with him. I just gave a little giggle, said "You know I don't drink, but thanks anyways", and gave him a hug and walked off. Most of the time I was able to keep myself distracted by other family members and my focus off of AH and his drinking. One person that helped the most to keep me distracted was my 3 year old nephew. He is so cute, and has such a funny sense of humor. Playing with him actually made me totally forget my problems for a couple of hours. It was so nice to be that distracted. There were a few times though that I would start to get consumed by AH drinking, so I would slip off into the bedroom, log on to the computer and read some posts here on MIP. I would also take the time to recenter myself by saying the serenity prayer and "talk myself down". I wouldn't leave until I felt strong enough to not let being around AH and his drinking bother me for awhile. Another thing that I anticipated that was going to happen did happen. AH had went to the store for some beer, and when he came back he offered his sister a beer. He had just opened a beer for himself and was drinking it. She asked him what he was doing with beer. I was preparing to leave the room for that conversation as I had planned on doing if this conversation did take place, however, I didn't have to leave the room. AH took his sister into another room to discuss it privately with her. I was impressed. I realize that the weekend isn't over yet, and there is still alcohol in the house that he will probably drink today, but after surviving the events of yesterday, I am better prepared to get through the day just as good as I did yesterday.
Thanks for listening.
Kimmy
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Kimmy
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
I applaud you!!! This is exactly how it works for me.... when I become willing, my Higher Power does for me what I cannot do for myself. I am learning to stay calm, remembering that I am divinely protected when I keep my HP close.
Thanks for sharing how it works. ((hugs))
-- Edited by glad lee on Sunday 21st of November 2010 10:51:09 AM
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
Great Kimmy....I congradulate you as the others have...you worked it and continue to do that as you move on to "peace of mind and serenity whether he drink or not. ((((hugs))))
