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After 11 years of inconsistency, pain, and being second to whatever "drug of choice," my alcoholic is choosing this time around, I'm still getting tripped up in my own codependency. I know to go easy on myself...I can't do this perfectly and to take it one day at a time. I wonder if anyone else ever feels that as this disease of alcholism is pervasive and progressive - I see how I as a codependent is also in late stage codependency as well. I'm getting better at recovery but sometimes he really knows how to hit me hard....
I'm so grateful for the gift of Al-anon and detachment....
Welcome Sophia and yes sometimes its just to damn much to be around an alcoholic. Yes the disease is pervasive and progressive. If not arrested it gets worse, that is the reality of it.
Just because we love an alcoholic , does not make us a co dependent. Just if we let it pervade our own lives and do not set up boundaries for ourselves, we can become damaged. Im not too much into labels. What does that mean late stage codependency. I was with the alcoholic for 26 years because I loved him and hoped he would recover for my sake, so we could have the marriage that I wanted and he would live to my expectations. But when we live with alcoholics, sometimes recovery doesnt happen for them when we want it too.
We have to decide to live our lives on our own terms and find our own way and our own path.
Yes I too am so glad for the gift of Alanon and if we can really master the art of detachment , it is a gift. Keep coming back Sophia! Look for the miracles in progress.
yes this is a progressive disease, cunning and baffeling, that reels us in every chance it gets. Our recovery is so vital for our own well being, for me I slip every now and again but thankfully I have all of you to get me back on track, Blessings
