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Someone contacted the dept. of social services here in the state (now called DCF)regarding concern for my grandaughter with my daughter if she is drinking and driving with my gd. More may have been mentioned but all I do know is that my daughter got a call this week from the counselor at my gd`s school tipping her off the DCF was just there at the school asking the principal if my gd gets picked up after school on time and if she looks okay. Well of course she looks okay. I buy most all her clothes and she is at my house about 4-5 nites a week. My d gives her father her car so he can pick up my gd after school everyday. The part that boggles my mind is the school counselor calling her and tipping her off. She called me up and asked me if I did it. Then she said, it must be her boss. I knew she immediately went home to clean the house and put food on the shelves. She has been through this before and knows what they look for. I don`t know what happened but I think they dropped the complaint. I`am just floored by that school counselor. This is probably the 5th or 6th counselor that is on my d`s team and not looking out for what is in the best interest for the child. Just 2 weeks ago I called her about my gd being up all night long in the closet worried about her mother`s behavior. (drinking and sleeping naked with a boy).. I spoke to her about how upset this little girl has been about her mothers drinking and what does she say? Doesnt she know its okay for her mother to have a couple of drinks? I gave her an example of how its more than a couple of drinks. She listened and said she had to hang up.. She called my gd in the office and tried to convince her that most kids parents drink alcohol and mommy can have a couple of drinks its okay... This is insanity.. I`am disgusted with all of it.
I just had a week of babysitting for 5 days straight and my d comes in tonite and starts screaming at the top of her lungs and has her daughter in tears. Then I feel so bad for her and inadvertently say, give her a hug. Omg, you would think I was ordering her to do something. She starts screaming at me for telling her what to do. I didnt even mean it like that. It was almost me thinking it out loud, I said it so quietly. I have to be more careful I guess. I just feel so badly for that little girl.
These are warnings of things to come for your daughter.
You cant fool all of the people all of the time. and you cant keep doing bad causes without getting the bad effects. Just keep being there for your Granddaughter.
I think you are doing all the right things. Keep talking until someone listens to you about the GD. I'm sorry you have to go through this especially that you're GD has to. It hits a nerve for me. I hope things get better soon.
Prayers going out for you , grandaughter and daughter
This is such an insane disease, we just make ourselves crazy trying to make sense of it. Your grandaughter is blessed to have you and staying strong for her as hard as it is will be of great benefit to her. Blessings
This is insanity.. I`am disgusted with all of it.