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OK, I'll start off by admitting I snooped. The second thing I have to say is that I'm proud of the work my husband has put into his recovery.
Now for my gripe - I saw a sheet of paper with a list of sobriety dates from my husband's group. I noticed that he listed a date that is way off from his sobriety date.
Why does this bother me? I know it's none of my business, but I can't help be annoyed by this. Does he honestly think all the "slips" he's had don't count?
One of these days I'm going to learn to stop snooping - the only one it hurts is me.
Okay now remember this day and stop snooping. A year from now or some time in the future you can look back at when you last snooped and be proud of your self as your HP will be and the fellowship unless of course....you slip. It's bothering you...change it. There is absolutely nothing about the alcoholic, what he does and doesn't do and his choices that you have power over and therefore the responsibility. 11/12/2010....(((((hugs)))))
The date he put is what he considers his recovery date. That can have more meaning to him besides being sober...that was the date he hit bottom. or the date he got out of denial, or the date he embraced recovery...clearly that date is important to him Let him have it...he knows when he has relapsed, doesn't need any reminders, the main thing is he got himself back on track. I can tell you my recovery date when I hit the doors of alanon...if i changed it for everytime I slipped in my own recovery, i may be changing the date maybe , daily, weekly or monthly. I would never be able to keep up with all those dates Put your focus back on you and your recovery, it sounds as though your husband is doing well. You will both be better off just working your own recoveries. Blessings
Hi, N8 - I strongly believe that my recovering AH's sobriety date fails to take into account at least one slip/relapse. So this thread has been really good for me. Who cares? The date is meaningful to him, and he has been committed to sobriety ever since then. I should let him have what meaning he puts on that date.
