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mjhyankees


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Actually had a pretty good week and was feeling pretty good.  Therapy session uncovered some stuff and I found myself falling back on the pity pot.  God, I hate feeling like this....I believe I deserve better from life than I've gotten...but I have to try to find happiness and contentment along the way.

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tlcate


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Just imagine how much worse things could truly be.

Your daughter is healthy - you don't have to go visit her in the hospital daily.  You have a roof over your head and food in your belly.

I know you have more than that - I have seen your gratitude lists.

You are allowed to not feel good.  It is ok.  Accept it with the realization you are doing just fine and your life is good.  Go easy on yourself.

You are not going to be Mr. Happy Jack in the Box every minute of every day.  Me, I aim for being satisfied with what I have - GRATEFUL for what I have - and not yearn for more.  My life is really good and I worked really hard to get here.  If I am not satisfied - my work was for nothing.

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mjhyankees


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I don't know....I feel like I made a terrible choice for a wife.....has caused me all sorts of stress and angst.....why did I do that?  I'm just never going to be satisfied in that arena.

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member922


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I don't have any suggestions mjh. I too have made some pretty bad choices in the relationship department. I try to tell myself how I have learned from them and I wouldn't be where I was today without them.

As for now, I am working on my relationship with myself. I don't know that anyone is ever completely satisfied, but we all deserve happiness. I hope you can figure out what will work for you to make that real.

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xeno59


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Well that choice you made for a wife brought you a beautiful little girl....that may have never happened with another partner. Oh you may of had kids but not that precious little girl you have now...so have a little gratitude there.
We all have choices we regret..again that's life and that's how we learn not to make that choice again.
You are expecting perfection from yourself and since only HP is perfect you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Time to write another gratitude list smile.gif

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