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my pride and ego. It was my decision and my choice and my responsibility so in order to get uninterrupted sleep I took a sleep aid last night. When I take this sleep aid I get to stay down/under (not Australia) longer and then slog thru the waking up swamp process as I fight to become full conscious. With monotonous regularity here it was again and I rolled (literally) out of bed at 8AM and went right into panic because I secretary my Sunday home group meeting at 8:30 and was 8 miles away and still in undies with very bad breath. My spouse was in the living room reading her program literature so why not blame her for not getting me up earlier and getting me ready.
I slipped into the hallway and into the bathroom and down the hall into the kitchen and then out the door into "her" car and slipped and slid all the way to the meeting which I got to just in time. I made sure to pack a resentment before I left the kitchen and I'm sure she read my body language just because honestly I am not superman or God and haven't learned to do that impossible thing called hiding my feelings. I had a neat, polished, shiny resentment when I got to the meeting and no banana pyuck under my slippers. I did have some residual pride and ego noise going on in my head until I told on myself in the front of the meeting. Either that or come home with a growing resentment and who knows how long a bad day. I got the feed back (almost always a guarantee) from the fellowship and the plan.
When home do the apology and amends first. Talking about the weather only keeps me in the problem and the problem always tries to keep me sick.
So first things first and then a hug with a kiss and whalla!! pyuck is gone and there are solutions to come up with and practice. People who love me are easy targets. I am such a coward because I can dart or shoot at them and they still love me...so naughty!!
I coulda sworn it looked like a banana peel. NOT!! Thanks for always being here for me. ((((hugs))))
Been there ........ At the time we have to have someone to blame .......but not me ......Late....not your fault. Heart racing, speeding in trafic, resentments flowing, .....absolutely necessary .......can't be late ....... again not my fault ......Then stop, think, look in the mirror .......after the fact, at the person who "WAS" to blame and ask myself "How important WAS it" ......... "Easy does it' ...... Everything worked out ......Yep, I been there.... I'm just like a banana ....I'm with the bunch .
hehe.... good "catch" on that slippery old banana peel Jerry..... it's often easy for me to think of you as "perfectly recovered", but of course, none of us really are..... it is progress, not perfection, and you are a shining example of wonderful progress and (darn-near) perfection, in my books.... Good for you in addressing the issue with your wife, before it built itself into more...
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Oh yeah, been there too. Way too recently in fact. Sometimes I think I'm really ¨getting¨ this program. Then at other times I so easily fall into old bad habits. But i'm happy to say that this time I realized what I was doing and was able to stop before any frying pans were thrown. Progress, not perfection, right? Thanks for sharing jerry. :)
Resentments have been floating in and out of me for weeks! Ego ego ego . . . such a powerful thing.
I am moving and friends and family offer to help. AAAAAHHHHHH!!! Won't even go into the details - but it all comes back to "Ok, I am upset - what can I do about that?" I would then turn it into gratitude that they are here because they love me. If they don't help exactly how I want . . . that is ok. They love me.
Those words are profound. They l o v e ME!!!
Resentment gone. The work will get done. It's all good.
I didn't make amends because most of these resentments were beating the tar out of me commuting between the new and old house WAY too many times. So by the time I got where I was going I had resolved the issue and not beaten them over the head with it .
I love this program.
tlc
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Yep Yep, Been there too, and I do at times feel sorry for the ones that get the 'blunt' of my resentments, I can't say that I have mastered any of it, but Like (((RLC))) I too have to back track and look in that D$mn Mirror and remind myself...Who Put ME Were I Am Currently!!! And for some reason the answer always returns the same ... ME!
You always bring a Smile to my Face & I am Ever Grateful You are here...
