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stephaniej


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My older kids will be with their dad this weekend, so it will just be me and the baby.

I'm trying to make enough plans for the weekend so that I stay sufficiently occupied with things other than my obsession.

I will NOT text and call my AH obsessively, trying to create "opportunities" for him to be honest with me about where he is.

I will NOT check phone records to see who he is calling, or who is calling him.

I will NOT spend the weekend in tears, torturing myself with morbid "fantasies" about what he's doing or who he is with.

I will accept that his choices this weekend are his alone, and his to own.  I will turn him over to my HP, and just have faith.

I will turn myself over to my HP, and just have faith.  I will have faith that each day I will get a little stronger than the day before; that each day will be a little better than the day before.

I will occupy myself with projects that fulfill and better me as a person, and I will interact with people who support me and lift me up.

I will come here for support whenever I need it.

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SteppingUp


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Go Stephanie!

Sounds like you're very aware and accepting of yourself and your situation.

I know what it's like with a baby but if possible please try to one thing this weekend just for you. Even if it's watching a movie that you want to watch while the baby naps.

Just focus on you! smile


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pineapple


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Yep, it looks like you're prepared. Please check in and keep us posted. You can do it!

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xeno59


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Sounds Like a GREAT plan !!!!!!!!!!
Blessings

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sunflowergirl


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Take care of you :) Enjoy your time :)

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clteach


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Ditto!! Weekends are difficult! But you got this! And so do I! lol

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Tattyhead


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Stay strong, Stephanie - I will keep you in my thoughts.

(((hugs))), Tish xxx

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mjhyankees


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Instead of calling and texting him...what about calling and texting some alanon friends and talk it out.

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Ness


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Hey Stephanie, great plan. You are a valued person in your own right.......enjoy being YOURSELF!

 I lost ME completely but this programme is bringing a newer, stronger me back.

Great to see the focus is on you.

Have a great weekend

((((((x)))))))



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