The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Miraculous cure in the melting of the ice, stress, negative...whatever of the moment
Invocation of others to SMILE in response
Love of self in that moment of appreciation of something positive
Emotional tonic and the release of Endorphins in the body.
So how can I SMILE when I am going through so much sadness?
By MAKING IT A CHOICE THAT YOU WILL LOOK FOR ONE POSITIVE MOMENT OF REFLECTION, for this will bring you out of the acute moment you are experiencing in times of stress.
Smiling brings a positive feeling, a feeling of hope, a feeling of wonder, and when YOU SMILE OTHERS DO TOO, so it is a proactive occupation.
Try it right now and see what happens. No matter what is happening, or where you are, just try it now...after three...
1...2...3 and S M I L E
Yay, you made me smile too.
Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
Of a much smaller magnitude, I smile when I start getting nervous while horseback riding. Somehow, it changes my demeanor and the dynamics where I work through my fears.
This shows me that sometimes a fake smile can do more for me than I would think. Let's fake it til we make it!
I appreciate your message and love the wonderful emoticons They made me smile
I really must be very careful with Putting on a Happy Face and the other alanon slogan "Fake it Until You Make It"
Most of my life I put on a Happy face pretending that all was well . I actually "Faked" my life to the outside world and really lost myself and the reality of my world in the process.
Today I feel it is a gift of this program and the steps that I can actually cry, say I am sad, look for help and live in the reality of the world.
I do agree a smile is wonderful and I find that t making gratitude lists each day has helped me to feel gratitude for all that I have and has changed my internal voices into one that makes me smile. and I love it when the expression on my face is naturally a SMILE
Thanks for the message as it is always important for me to reflect back to my old tools.
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 3rd of November 2010 07:47:25 AM
Thanks for the reminder. I try to smile everyday and be happy around those I have in my life.
Even when I am not feeling so good, everyone always comments about how happy I am all the time and hearing that makes me even happier.
Nobody wants to hear complaining and sob stories. I am trying not to do that even with my close friends. They must be getting sick of it LOL. I will keep those stories for my reflecting time, and try to work through them.
p.s. You made me smile right now even though things are piling up! Take them as they come and learn how to deal with them. At least that's my strategy.
