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lyndebi · ~*Service Worker*~

tlc, its ok to be wrong.It is part of being human. It frees us when we realise we need to say ugh i goofed, was wrong, and apologise.

I know when I didn't feel good after the last surgery I was not me. Was awful. Had to apologise to a couple people and my dog.

Now my shoulders are very ok with being wrong. I can even take yours if you want, tellem it was MY fault! (c;

I mean what does it matter? I know for a fact, take a beautiful, smart, classy woman, who people say they admire, have that same woman apologise becuz she was very wrong about something, people will like her more.

We relate to others who admit to mistakes, becuz we know we make them too.

I mean geez tlc did ya think you were perfect????? (O:

Now my turn to tell you, take lotsa deep breaths, forgive yourself.

hugging you,debilyn

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

What a valueable share of recovery ESH. So glad you brought your process here and
laid it out for me and others.   Don't worry it always gets better and results in growth
....and never stops.   You do have the courage to change and that is gold...it doesn't
come in a medal...none of us get a medal for doing the right thing. Mahalo for the
courage to bring it home for me and others.   (((((tlcate))))) smile

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

(((TLC)))

I hear you Just being able to be honest enough to see the situation in an objective manner is tremendous growth.

For so many years I was absolutely sure I was right and justified in all my actions

What a gift this program is and how powerful to have you come and share the process with us

'Thanks

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

(((TLC)))

I used to joke and say "I might not always be right, but I am never wrong". Truth was I did feel that way most of the time. After a few years in the program and working Step 10, it has become much easier for me to admit when I am wrong.

I remember the times when my AW and I would be having a disagreement (more like and argument) and I can't count the times I heard her say "You always have to be right..don't you...and you always have to get the last word in". Of course I knew I was right because I was the one who was sober. Once several years ago as I was detaching (notice I didn't say detaching with love) and she yelled at me as I was leaving the room "You always have to get the last word in don't you" . As I was slamming the door to the bedroom I yelled back...."NOT EVERYTIME". LOL. That was the days before I started practicing my favorite slogans...Don't React, and How Important Is It.

Before the program my ego was like a balloon.......thank goodness the program stuck it with a pin. Now I like myself better and it's amazing how much pressure it take off of me not having to be right all the time. LOL.

HUGS,
RLC

-- Edited by RLC on Tuesday 2nd of November 2010 05:43:09 PM

mjhyankees · Senior Member

I ID with you here....I have found that "my first thought is usually the crazy one" and this makes me stop and think before I react now.

glad lee · ~*Service Worker*~

I applaud your courage and willingness.

There is motivation in me when I look at step 9 as making things right in God's world... when I am willing to believe it's not all about me.

As for character defects... God is going to remove them when God is good and ready, right?! haha! When I say the step 7 prayer* I am reminded that God may be using my defects for a useful purpose... who knows......?

Thanks for the awesome share.

* Step Seven Prayer

My Creator, I am now willing, that you should have all of me, good and bad. Please remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to You and to others. Grant me strength as I go out from here, to do Your bidding. Amen.

-- Edited by glad lee on Wednesday 3rd of November 2010 05:50:58 PM

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