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I want to share this with everyone. This afternoon I was walking my two Black Labs Ellie and Daisy when I noticed a piece of yellow 8x10 paper that somehow had blown into my yard. As I reached down to pick it up I noticed it contained a note from a very young girl probably 6 years old to her boyfriend. I read the note printed in large letters with a red crayon, and a misspelled word here and there. The note brought a smile to my face, but instead of discarding it I folded it and put it in my pocket. I took it out a few minutes ago an read it again. The thought crossed my mind that we possibly become co-dependent at an early age. I'm going to share the little girls note to her boyfriend with you and you can make your own determination.
"I am sorry for being mean and I will try not to be it any more but I am in love with a nother boy in my class now and if you boy want me come git me but you are going to be nice. ok. P.S. I stil lik you if you be nice to me".
Below the note was a big red heart with "I stil love you" written inside. Bless her heart she's going to be a great member of Al-Anon one day!!
Wow...boundary setting at the age of 6? Requesting someone treat her nice? Making positive better choices? Maybe she's already been warned or the cute little midget in the meeting. I don't know however Andrea be careful what you wish for in your next life or maybe you'd like to trade for a while now...with me?
I love that this kid was able to set herself up for being treated better! loving past the pain...co-dependancy or compassion??? hmmm what a fine line :)
I felt a littlesad reading that small child's thoughts. It reminded me that life is difficult even when we are 5 or 6. We each must try to do the best we can
Wow... a boyfriend at age 6... My older son didn't have a girlfriend til this year (13 years old) and my younger son (8 years old) doesn't want anything to do with girls... Is it a girl thing or is it just a thing? Hmmm very interesting share!
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You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. -Buddha
The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exsist. Ours only is the present's tiny point. -Mahmud Shabistanri
I completely agree that we start our codependency at a very young age. I realized this the first time i set foot in an alanon room. I have always tried to please everyone else despite how i felt.
