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My exAH called me a few days ago to tell me that he had been held at gun point by a group of men and women for two days. He gave me details of everything that happened. At one point, he said that several of the meanest men left to go do a killing in another country. The ones that stayed behind in his small country home had radios and they heard that their accomplices had been either killed are incarcerated while committing the crime. The story was bizarre. He was so certain that it happened and he was so angry that his brother, who lives in the house in front of his, didn't believe him.
A few days later, my exAH called and said that he now realizes that it was all in his mind. He realized this after he spoke to a few other alcoholics who tried to stop cold turkey.
He said he slept with his gun several night after that. Just imagine what could have happened if he brother had walked through the door. Here my ex was so paranoid. He could have killed his own brother.
All this reminds me of why I had to divorce him. His behavior was getting scary when he lived here. Once he accused me of hanging pictures that had the devil's face in the center of the flowers. I reminded him of that incident last night. And you know what? He still thinks that is true. He thinks I intentionally hung those pictures up to haunt him. They are pictures of flowers - nothing else.
It can get worse, people. It can get worse. That is, if they don't stop drinking.
-- Edited by GailMichelle on Thursday 28th of October 2010 10:23:33 PM
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
Oh yes, but isn't this just a bigger form of the insanity anyways, the insanity that we start to have when we question our own ability to know what is the truth, how cunning and baffling that without a drink passing our own lips we can doubt our own selves.
Anything that got lost or misplaced in our home or my husbands workplace he was adament someone stole it, noone ever came to our home in any case, and yet the stories he would concoct to support the insanity, no wonder we end up doolally too!
I relate to Katy here. The insanity of it all was always present with exah and I. He'd throw lie after lie out and I'd believe it, even if it meant turning my back on my own gut and intuition, because I didn't want to believe that the man I gave my heart to and had a child with, would betray me with dishonesty. We were together for nearly 10 yrs. In order for it to last that long he needed me doing this. Otherwise, it would never have lasted that long. Being willing to turn my back on myself and my own truths is part of my disease.
When the liver is so damaged and scared up it does not filter out the poisons from the blood.
These poisons then go out and damage other organs, muscle etc. So of course the brain is also compromised.
Cirrosis is one reason this can happen.
My bil was seeing all kinds of violence. His family just called him a liar, not realising to him it was real.
It is hard to see them so sick. Yes I am glad he does not live with you too. It is so sad.
Thank you for sharing this. We don't often read much about the very serious parts of the disease.
My ex AH would turn pasty white and be someone else, totally out of control, physically abusive, not open to any reason. Was horribly scarey. That was when I could no longer allow him home anymore.
I warned his sister, she ignored me, he pushed his mom around! He was 55 then I think.
I did watch my father have vived hallucinations while he was in the hospital after a heart attack and was going through DT's. Not uncommon at all but extremely scary and dangerous for ALL involved. I would suggest to your's Ex's brother that he remove the gun from him. My father at one time got a job as night watchman at a bank. They gave him a gun ( good lord) this was back in the day before gangs and such and they tightened up on gun laws. Anyway one night while he was working/drinking he clearly started hallucinating and firing off his weapon. Thankfully he was alone in the bank. Swat team was called out and they talked my father down and into surrendering his weapon. Obviously was fired from that job. But anyone who abuses alcohol, drugs whatever to the extreme can hallucinate.
I would add the reminder that hallucinations are not always visual but auditory as well. My exAH claims he has heard me say all kinds of wild things. While it's true that I may not immediately recall saying some things, but will remember them if I get to thinking about the situation a bit, there are other things that I KNOW in my heart that I would NEVER say.
