After working a fourth step in al anon I've found I had to change my whole view point.  Like many people, Sylvia Plath was one my heroine.  The aggrieved, driven crazy wife was certainly something to worship for me.  I'm now finding that I don't worship the victim role anymore.   Certainly I'm willing to acknowledge victimization but at some point for me the issue became a role.  I was totally immersed in "poor me" and eulogizing my suffering.  Look what I did for "love".  Look how much I "gave". 
Lastly of course it was "look how much I suffer".

Now I view Sylvia's rages and laments in a very different light.  Certainly she had a difficult marriage and was isolated.  I've always justified her behavior because I could justify my own rages, out of control behavior and total immersion in the victim role.

Now I have to get new heroines and for once I'm ready.

Maresie.