Friend of mine that I used to be very close with that I have drifted apart from the last 2 years called me yesterday.  Once I got in recovery to be honest I just didnt have that much in common with her anymore.  We were like sisters close.  And being judgemental (admits)  when she moved an active  alcholic/addict into her home that was it for me, I thought she lost her mind.  From a few conversations after she did that, I could see from the things she said and the excuses she made and the "oh its great" I really had to stay clear becasue at that point I couldnt control myself and my remarks...I remember one time I said, " hes thoughtful, considerate etc....are you kidding me, I think you forgot who your talking to".  I think at that point I realized that since I could not control myself I had just better step away completely...Well, in our conversation she told me that this man had moved  out  on and on....she also told me shamefully that she now had a drug addiction to crack...she is in her 40's and no history of drugs except in her 20's pot.  Ill  tell you I was flabbergast, but didnt say that.  I listened to her and an over whelming sadness came over me.  She apologized for our relationship or lack of one in the last two years and said she needed help.  I suggested she get to an NA meeting asap.  Why am I writing this, Im really not sure maybe just to get it off my chest.  At first I was overwhelmed with sadness and then as she went on I just kept thinking, stay away from this as far as you can.  Long story short, I dropped over at her house in the afternoon and we talked and she went to a meeting and I left.  Wow, ill tell you to think that someone would start at this age astounds me and then on the hand I dont know why I m so surprised.  I know I cant help her and to be brutally honest I am not interested in the drama of it all, sounds cold but thats how I feel.  Driving home overwhelming gratitude enveloped me.  I thought to myself, good god this could have been me, who knows, I never drank or drugged but I was so consumed in a very unhealthy relationship and being around insanity certainly leads to insanity and here I was witnessing it first hand.  Thank god for recovery. 
P.s...of course I am entertaining the thought of going to her brother and telling him whats going on, she has two boys 15 and 16...i honestely need some suggestions on that idea...do I mind my own business here or do I being the only one who knows this need to go to her family member..?