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Hi have a friend, who lives in the US, I'm in Canada, we met each other as business contacts and struck up a friendship.
She admitted to me early on in our friendship that she was an alcoholic and then went on to tell me all her woes, with her addict bf and how he kicked her out and now she's basically homeless and living off food stamps (yet somehow finds money to drink) etc. etc. You all know how A's love to complain about how everything is not their fault (this is not a judgement, just an observation).
She has detoxed herself several times in the last year that I have known her and eventually falls off the wagon. The longest was 21 days sober for her since I've known her. She has been going to AA for some time. I do feel she will die soon if she doesn't get sober.
I am weary and worn out by her conversations, but don't quite know how to detach from her. I like her as a person but hate her addiction.
How do I remove myself from her without being emotional about it? I need to set some boundaries, possibly cut off all contact, but she is so hypersensitive and I don't think I could handle more drama from her if she feels I am abandoning her etc. I am just learning how to detach from my home situation and an AH.
Thanks for listening.
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They are sick and we are crazy. Crazy no more. Amen.
they do love to do the wooooooeeeeeeee is me , the next time she starts simply tell her your sorry she is having a rough time and remind her that she dosent have to live that way .she goes to AA and knows where she can get help when she is ready. suggest she call a sponsor or go to a meeting you cannot help her .. be respectful but firm . good luck Louise
-- Edited by abbyal on Monday 11th of October 2010 01:58:54 AM
I HEAR YOU AND UNDERSTAND. IT IS EXHAUSTING TO LISTEN TO THE "A " VENT ABOUT ISSUES .
i AGREE THAT THE BEST WE CAN DO IS TO MAINTAIN COMPASSION AND LISTEN FOR A MOMENT AND THEN SAY I NEED TO GO BUT THAT THERE IS HELP IN AA AND SUGGEST SHE REACH OUT.
DO THIS EACH TIME SHE CALLS AND THE CALLS WILL CHANGE
