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I havn't been on here in a really long time, My A and I have moved to a new state to be close to his Family. I have no friends or family here and I feel so alone. Things have got worse with my A's drinking and I feel like I'm watching him die in front of me and I'm not coping. For over a week now he has barley eaten and he is looking so sick. I dont think I will cope without him. I spend my time begging him to eat something. He has an appointment with a Detox clinic on Friday, but that seems so far away and there is no guarantee that he will get into Rehab from there. I'm worried sick and so scared of losing him. I dont think I can survive this.
I am glad that you have reached out here and just want to assure you that you are not alone. Alcoholism is a dreadful disease and without al anon tools it is almost impossible to survive the pain caused by watching a loved one suffer.
Please try to find face to face meetings in your community. It is so very important to break the isolation We have on line meeetings here 2xs a day and chat room open 24/7.
Alanon suggests that we live one day at a time, take good care of ourselves, and try to let go of worry of the future.
So glad that your husband has an appointment with detox that is a step If an emergency develops before his appointment know that you can call for medical help
Please keep coming back here and sharing It is important
-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 10th of October 2010 06:51:56 PM
I, too, am so glad you're back! It is really so terrible to see your loved one suffering. I have been there, too. The fact that no sane person would choose to keep drinking in the face of very serious consequences or even death help me to realize that alcoholism is a very serious, and very progressive, disease. When I first got here, I believed that alcoholism was just a lack of willpower.
Do you have face to face Alanon meetings where you are? I see from your profile that you are in Australia - not sure if that's where you were originally and now you have moved, or if that's where you are now. If there aren't face to face meetings, please join our online meetings. Although it's easy to see that your husband needs help because alcoholism causes so many physical symptoms, the families of alcoholics also suffer. Because our symptoms aren't always physical, it seems like less of a necessity for the families to receive help - but that's not so. The family members of alcoholics need and deserve help for themselves just as much as the alcoholics.
You can do this - one day at a time. It's overwhelming to think about a week from now or a month from now when there are so many questions and variables. When I'm having a hard time, I tell myself that I can do anything for 24 hours. And then after that 24 hours, I tell myself that I can do it again for 24 hours.
Praying for you and your husband - please keep coming back.
Thankyou to both of you for your replies. I went to an alanon meeting in my area last friday. there was only me and two others there, but for the short period of time I was there I felt ok. Now I'm just hanging till I can go to the next one. If all goes well I will be taking A to his appointment this friday and hope like hell he gets in. Yes I'm in Australia, I have just moved states, from Queensland to Tasmania. I will try again to join the online meetings but I remember last time I couldnt get into them for some reason. Thankyou both again for your words. I need all the encouragement I can get at this time. I'm trying so hard not to fall apart.
