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I was able to NOT let my bf's mom get to me through texting, thanks to the help of my sponsor! I called my sponsor in the middle of the insanity and she helped me through it all. My bf's mom was trying to get me to get up set so I would go home and yell at my A about things. It was my fault for texting her a note of hello in the first place, I admit to that. But she turned it all around, tried to guilt me for not contacting her sooner in the week as if I am ignoring her and all that. My sponsor gave me an analogy that the mom was trying to get me to play monopoly with her, and that I didn't have to put my game piece on the board and play the game. I could walk away! So I texted the mom that I was working and would have to go. She of course tried to drag me in more by saying "oh I get the hint", but I did not respond after that. I didn't realize that she was getting me riled up and that I was beginning to feel like I had to go home and yell at Abf. I didn't get dragged in and I felt so much better for it :) Thanks Sponsor and thanks me for working it! I am beginning to see the clarity that those of you who have been here for a while talk of, and the peace, serenity and calm! Thanks all!
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You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. -Buddha
The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exsist. Ours only is the present's tiny point. -Mahmud Shabistanri
yaay Im so glad that analogy came out lol it was cute and I too have my lil doggie (or car) as my token in my pocket (gotta be the ones with sound effects!) and u take the shoe token and hold it tight in ur pocket and choose to not play their games.
But let ur shoe be a reminder to you, to put on those shoes (for walking away from the fights, baits, hooks) and know you can choose anything else you can imagine, we have lots of choices! Know you can stand on your own two feet and when things get hairy, to slow down, bring your awareness back to you and how you feel and what can you do to allow you to feel better, right now/today.
kcb, it works!
I encourage others, on their positive days, to write about how they got that bc they are archived for you to remind you later of how you were working it & when it works.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
