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snodebb


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I just wanted to post something good for a change. Since I started coming her I have mostly posted when things were not good.  I come home tonight and he is sober.  I did not say anything about last night or the night before and I think he was waiting for me to say something. He just kept looking at me. Normally I will ask him why arent you drinking tonight did you run out of money, I would go on for hours. I just had a cup of coffee and read my book, so he got his book out and read to.  I do know this is just a lull in the storm and I am not expecting it to be this way everyday but I feel good tonight and I am glad I didnt ask him any questions.  The book I am reading is Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews.

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debbie trump
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It's hard to argue with someone who is not obsessed with being right? This is a hard thing to put into practice. Good for you!

Many Blessings, nh girl


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Mine has been (seemingly) sober for a couple of days now. This is what I was used to, before the weeknight drinking flared up a couple weeks ago. I am enjoying it, too. Although, the unspoken conversation is still like a big elephant in the room. Mine is going back and forth between being his usual cheerful self and being grumpy, then back again. But I have not commented on the sobriety, only asked once about the moodiness. I'm reading Getting Them Sober, too. I don't know how long this will last either. That's the crummy thing about living with a drinker, I guess. =( Can't enjoy the good times as much cause you worry about when they are gonna end.

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sunflowergirl


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Wow, all the planets must have been in alignment because my A was sober last night too, and when his mom called and yelled at him, he didn't go drink, which is usually how he deals with that. I have learned to do what you did, and have not been passive aggressive and all that. I am reading the same book! Last night I let him be him and I was me. I read my book while he just lay on the couch and shut his eyes. Then I took a bath and he came in and talked with me ... It was a nice night. I too am not expecting anything for today, but last night was nice ;) I am not worried about tonight when I get home like I used to be. I am just going with the flow of the day now. Learning to concentrate on me :)

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