New and in need of hope and help - Al-Anon Family Group

thundermother · Veteran Member

New and in need of hope and help

Ginger90 · Veteran Member

Hi

You could try the library for some books. Also, there are some great sites on the web

with daily readings and blogs about alanon and alcoholism. Try to get to a face to

meeting if at all possible. Keep coming back and sharing. The alcoholic may or may

not get better but you can.

(((hugs)))

oklahoma momof5 · Veteran Member

I just got Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews from the library. I had to request it to be transferred from another library but the librarian showed me how and it was free. It was worth the wait. I pretty much read it all in one sitting yesterday, and I know I'll be reading it again and again till it all sinks in. There are sure to be other books at the library, too. I got a couple of others, but Getting Them Sober seems to be the most user friendly. Also, you can go to the bookstore and just sit and browse as long as you want.... tons of books there on every subject. I saw one called Marriage on the Rocks by Judith.... W something. That seemed to have a ton of good information, but like you, I couldn't afford to buy it. But they seriously don't mind if you just sit and read the books there at the store. Even take some notes if you need to.

Also keep coming back to this site... the people here are so supportive and that's what we need at this point.

I know you feel alone but... there are a lot of people out there to help you!!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to MIp and alanon

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this dreadful disease. Your situation is much like mine whenI found alanon. There are face to face meetings in all communites and I suggest you find one convenient for you There you will find free or low cost literature that will help you learn new tools to deal with this disease.

There is help and hope. You can recover and find the self that you feel you lost along the way.

Help in finding a meeting is here http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

Please keep coming back

Mattie · ~*Service Worker*~

I am so glad you have found us. You will find many people here who've been through the same things.

You can read all the threads here and learn so much about alcoholism and how to make life better. There are also online meetings here.

Hugs to you.

thundermother · Veteran Member

Thanks for the encouragement everyone. I really do appreciate it.

I am at my wits end.

Just getting out of the house is a problem for me as I do not have access to transport.

I live in a French speaking community and I am English, so local meetings are in French. No help to me.

I will try to save of up $ and order some books on-line.

I am just so tired of living like this. I wish I had the financial strength to just kick him out or move but I do not. I must learn to detach or I will go mad.

Thank you again.

Christy · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi and welcome,

At the top of the page you will see a "sticky" offering a free book, Getting Them Sober. The contact info is there also.

Also, on Amazon.com you can get very reasonable used
Alanon books. We have meetings in the chatroom 2x a day that you are welcome to attend. The chatroom is open 24/7, although there is not someone there all the time, you are free to chat and ask questions.

Christy

thundermother · Veteran Member

Thank you Christy (and everyone),

I appreciate your suggestions. I was generously offered a copy of the Getting Them Sober book.

I will look and see if I can find some used copies of any of th alanon books online.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it.

Blessings.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi again

Alanon world service web site has many pamphlets on line. This is the site and my favorite piece of literature. I try to use all the little suggestions each day

Please keep coming back and I hope this helps
http://www.qis.net/~alanon/literature/justfortoday.php

-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 3rd of October 2010 06:31:47 PM

thundermother · Veteran Member

Thank you HotRod for your suggestions.

I will surely check it out.

Namaste

sunflowergirl · ~*Service Worker*~

I too have very little money, but I know where there is a will there is a way. I am a big fan of the library and this board. I did buy Courage to Change and The Language of Letting Go on amazon.com where they have pretty cheap books. If you can find a meeting, there is free literature there too. Keep coming on here though, it helps! Take care of you now.

thundermother · Veteran Member

Thanks Sunflower. I am hoping to put a couple of bucks aside to buy some used books.

snodebb · Veteran Member

Yes get the book Getting them Sober by Toby Rice Drews I have read that book maybe 4 times. You should get it. It helped me alot.

MorganC · Newbie

Hi Thundermother,

i have found books by Melody Beatie also incredibly helpful. Her books are focused on recovery of all types. Her books on co-dependancy are great, many of us also deal with that along with al anon'ism

thundermother · Veteran Member

Hi debb and Morgan,

Someone on this board was kind enough to send me the book Getting them Sober. I am reading it now.

I am hoping to have a few dollars next week to order a book or two by al-anon.

Thank you all, I appreciate your kindness.

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