Aloha all...I read a post a while back about a couple 18 year old female family
members who were abanding family ties and running off to another family with
young male others.  I responded that it seemed like an epidemic because of
course that is happening here also.  My 18 year old grand daughter who is doing
the same thing with here "fiancee" and who has done most of it in secrecy and
with (seemingly) the abetting of his parents who have actively taken a splitting
position between my son and his daughter.  There's more and it isn't important
to the post.  That it is happening in my family isn't such a huge surprise either
however I look for sanity always and at this point it isn't present within this sons
family and home.   We (my spouse and I) share our ESH and then back off and
let them act out their choices.   My son and I have been discussing the subject
of choices lately while he has struggled with the situation and doing the right
thing (for him) however I arrived, based upon all that has been going on, at my
own decision earlier on and mentioned to him what that was; attending her
wedding at the end of the week.   I had told him that with all of the deception and
splitting and disrespect and more I would not be in support in anyway.  I said no.
And I mean't no and repeated it today when he called me that he was going to the
wedding to give her away as a dad...she's aready gone and play his role out.  He
said he had an invitation for me and my spouse and I repeated what I had said
3 days ago. "No I will not be in support of the situation."  

Today I have a choice...support and abet the insanity or be true to myself.  I chose
the latter.  My HP has been consulted and I find no conflict between how I've been
taught and how I've chosen.  They have all been turned over to HP.  I've got a life
to work on of my own.

(((((hugs)))))