The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
There are no words to describe how awestruck I am after reading Getting Them Sober. There it was in writing, how I have been acting toward my AH, and how he has been acting towards me. Then there were suggestions to tell me how to deal with this disease in a positive way. I can thankfully say there is peace in my heart. I even went back to my profile and re-read my earlier posts. I get tears of gratitude reading your posts to me. Now I get to learn this new way of life. I get to practice detachment. I get to let go and let God. I get to live my life. I get to learn how to love myself. I get to learn how to love other people in a healthy way. I get to walk around with a clear mind.
I have been trying to run my own life now for way too many years. This is a new freedom for me. Today..... The constant focus on my AH has gone away. I used HALT today to keep me from having negative mental dialogue in my head. I remembered someone posting and saying : I just told myself not to go there. Instead of pushing myself to total exhaustion, I said to myself, take it easy. Just for today....
Thank you.
-- Edited by kath on Friday 1st of October 2010 09:57:58 PM
You have become a Miracle in Progress Kath...glad to be a part of the journey along with the rest of the family. Yay!! Keep on keeping on. (((((hugs)))))
Halt is don't let yourself get too... Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired
When I am really tired, hungry,angry and lonely, my thinking goes downhill in a super fast way. Someone on this board shared that when they get this way, they can stop the ongoing negative self talk by gently reminding themselves they are H,A,L,or T and then telling themselves not to go there in their mind, then eat, rest, share, etc.
