This is a great question, one that I focused on hard to resolve within myself 2 years ago.  I too wanted to be both lol.  That is natural greediness on our parts.  It came up in conversations with my mom, about my current boyfriend (at that time).  I spent two solid days, weighing this dilemma -bc I so did want to be right haha. 

The moment we choose being right (or having anything to prove) we are choosing ego.  I know acoas see things in black and white and I do this less and less everywhere in my life -except spiritually and energetically speaking.  The choice is a black and white one, do u pick light or darkness (and all things associated with each)? 

In our arguments between my bf/H and I ~ when he chooses to shut down (pick -no- for example, he would say, ' "so we're not going to get along today" ' - I say - no, that is a choice u are making.  I am willing to get along, even though we disagree on something.  Why let a difference of opinion ruin an otherwise "perfectly" imperfect day?  After five days of straight rain - today looks glorious!!  ahh, the simple things, rain, light, breathing.
    I tell him the (in regards to the commitment to my relationships) -the "no" choice, aka failure is not a choice for me, it is not in my repertoire any more.  The no choice is an admission to accept the abuse from the past - I wont take it now - I know I do have choices and millions of them, if I stay open minded.  Picking no, shuts all of that possibility down.

I say you can perceive and pick failure but this is not what I am doing.  I hope this does not continue bc I will gradually detach and actully move away from you bc this is what I am now about.  I am very willing to support, love and talk about anything always. 
   We have been thru some major stuff the last few days, lots of growth in our dynamic.  Now that the house renos are done (for now) - there are no more distractions, plus we fought as a distraction - ugh lol.

So in prayer today (I do it midday, same time every day) the question came thru again, after we had dealt with this issue a few days ago and then serendipitously lol (or divinely planted) I see it here on the board, cheeky HP- spreading that healing around .

This is what I wrote when i came immediately after prayer today:

(so please lol please - take what u like and leave the rest, its just my thoughts)

Greed = evil/ego
Love is God.

The answer unequivocably can only be "Yes! I choose to be happy."
    The moment we go to/choose "right" it is evil, fearful, boastful, controlling, manipulative (pushing one's own agenda-forcing outcomes), it is a trap.

Putting any outside source/thing in front of (in relevance or importance) even and especially us ~ is misguided and misdirected.  The truth is within us.  We are a spark of that Divine Light/God aka HP (Higher Power).

The moment you take credit (ego) for that which the Divine has provided/gifted to you, you are off course and again misdirected by the mind/ego. 
     It is a choice to make, to belive/think that you are not worth pure love.  It is choosing to belive and buy into all of the pain of the past and the pain others threw at you.  We pick it up and take it, own it,  that is a choice.

All things are infinitely possible with God, including living breathing miracles in action, manifesting exponentially AND total forgiveness but/and you must surrender to get there.

As I identify and peel away the layers of lies, ego and pain (abuse) I invite the divine to live in more space within me.  Thanks be to God!