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Still not Feeling OK... Sickness is lingering, I have been trying to move around a little more today, but just can't seem to find the energy to do it...
Funny how when I am sick I can see all the things I never slow down to look at... Like ME for instantace... resently I have been SLOWLY Hacking away at my Debt, and it isn't something that is easy to do, even tho my husband & myself run a small company, our personal income isn't what "Most" Imagine, and we have our struggles for sure...
I have been getting better, I have been turning away from things I don't need, and trying to just be satified with what i have... Not easy for me when I get the urge to go Shopping... I have noticed that since I started working my program, my "Urges" are less for the shopping.. I Really Don't even enjoy it, I think the only reason I allowed it to get to were it is, was like a "Retail Theropy" thing, when I am clothes shopping I am usually by myself, and don't know what to do, so I go Shopping... For some reason hanging out in a Dressing room at one point was my only piece of "Serenity"...lol... Sad I know... But Honestly, with the business being right next to my home, and never going out of the house but to run the boy to games and such, there really isn't much else "Fun" around here to do...
Sooo I am Asking for a Little Al-Anon/ACOA Help... I am looking for "Fun" I can have when I have free time, I love to read, but after awhile, my head starts bobbin and I drift off... the weather here is pretty good currently, between 60-85 most days, so comfortable, so I am looking for "CHEAP" fun things I can do to Escape my everyday and learn a better way to spend my time, instead of my money :) that would be benifial to my life, and my recovery, but at the same time give me something to do other then waist money on things I don't need....
My son & Husband hunt this time of year, and I would like to do something preductive, something I can enjoy after a long day of work... So Looking for Suggestions... Need to keep finances on track and still maintain some kind of enjoyment out of things :)
Thanks for Listening and thanks in advance for your suggestions ;)
I don't know where you are, but are there places you can go and sit, say near a lake or the ocean? A river maybe? I am not sure what you are able to do, but a quiet walk on a path in the woods ?? Art museums are great for me, I haven't been to one in a while, but I always love them, and they are usually not more than 7 to 10 bucks. The library is my sanctuary... Sometimes just getting in an aisle and looking at books is just what I need. Sometimes I rent a movie at the RedBox or Blockbuster, and I have a netflix account that I can watch movies on... All things you can do that are quiet and cheap or free :)
No Lakes or Oceans near by, and the spot I got at the river...WELL... That is were the Guys Hunt, so no good ;( I am from a very small town, in the NE... Which I haven't found ANY museums here :( But all good ideas, normally I would go to the river, but since the husband turned it into a Hunting camp last year, in the winter just can't get there... :( But I am most grateful for your idea's... Think of anymore I am All Ears :)
Love & Hugs & Thanks for Responding :) Most Grateful :P
Right there with ya sister! I have been good and sick for a solid month! Exhausting. Then Sunday afternoon I start to finally feel human - start excercising a little to gain some strength back. Went to a friend's house to change the water in his fish tanks and while I am lugging around 5 gallon buckets of salt water (dumb) I pull my back out. Now I am walking around like . . . well I want to say an 80 year old woman, but my grandma could kick my butt in a 100 ft race right at the moment. JEEEZ!!!
Two business trips, close on my first house, and move in the next 30 days. Wonderful problems to have but the overwhelm fairy is knocking on my door!!!! I am in 1 hour at a time mode. If I look forward at all I am going to pass out.
For me - READING. Big time. A REAL book - paper with ink and everything. It just gets me out of my reality. No TVs, no computers, no phones, no spam, no vulgarity, no crappy comercials, no facebook, no noise, and it is not physically demanding which is perfect. I am currently reading Angel Time by Anne Rice. I like it! I am going to try a walk outside later when it warms up. I won't be sprinting, heck I might not make it to the mailbox, but it has got to help at least a little internally and externally.
Uggg the thought of moving furniture and boxes . . . oooops I am staying in the NOW!!!
tlc
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I hear you, sometimes fun just seems to fall by the wayside and shopping is a substitute. I do not know if you would call this fun but i find it enriching, I volunteer in the local children hospital and read and play with the babies who have no parents. I also walk a great deal and go to the gym. It does become fun especially after exercising when i let myself enjoy the sauna!! The gym costs are resonable as thye are fun by the City!! Playing cards like Bridge is also a favroite of mine Let us know what you come up with
May I suggest a craft? I really enjoy making jewelry and sewing. Knitting, painting, needle point can be fun too. There are beginners kits for pretty much every kind of craft. Of course, you can spend money on craft supplies too, but you also have an activity. Crafting has been a big help to me.
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I'm trying to find enjoyable things to do on my own, too, that ideally don't cost me money to accomplish.
I like the idea, too, of enjoying what I have instead of going out to find something else.
Some enjoyable activities I like to do on my own:
Read Write a letter to a friend to send via snail-mail Write in my journal Do something creative, like crafts... drawing, painting, working on a scrapbook, vision board, etc. Watch a DVD Get out in nature, go for a walk or find some place peaceful to sit and just "be" Trying out a new recipe (cooking or baking) Listening to music Dancing - I do belly dance, mostly in classes, but every now and then I'll put on some good music and just dance by myself. Learn something new (although this might take a little investment in books or other materials needed depending upon what you're trying to learn)
Working with living things works great for me...plants which make me smile and those that make me smile and also feed me. I love outside animal life and whatever HP flies before my eyes. The scenery around home owns me...turn one way it's the ocean and shoreline and turn around and it's the mountains and all around me the clouds and sun and rain. They're clearing out a big patch of forrest just across the street from me to add buildings of course...My spirit is sad and my hawks are gone along with the scenery. I pray it doesn't happen everyday...more buildings, cars and people don't make for gladness and I don't stay with the sadness of it. I love fun and being funny sometimes is the thing I do...If I am not given it...I can give it. (((((hugs)))))
