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I GREW UP WITH PARENTS WHO WERE DRUG ADDICTS AND DRINKERS !! BUT MY BOYFRIEND IS ALSO A RECOVERYING ALCOHOLIC AND HAS BEEN 4 5 YEARS BUT THE THING IS I THINK I MAY BE MORE MESSED UP EMOTIONALLY THEN ALL OF THEM AND I NEED HELP IS WHERE TO LOOK?? WILL AL-ANON BE A PLACE 4 ME TO FIND SOME PEACE???
Hello and welcome , you bet this is the place for you . I have many friends who are adult children Laci and all have recovered in this program . Your in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic so u need a program for yourself . We have several books written specifically for adult children like yourself one of my sponsees favorite is the HOPE FOR TODAY A DAILY reader all pages written by adult children .. Find meetings for yourself come here and share how your feeling we also have online meetings in the chat room 9am an pm eastern time .. . Louise
Qualifying for al anon is a personal choice. It sounds like you would fit in lots of groups so you can get a great deal of support from this board. I don't know that I was any more messed up than my ex A or even my parents. I know I have my own issues and they aren't all about them.
Well that post makes you a sister for me...I will suggest only what was suggested to me and which then worked for me. I also employed outside counseling along with meetings until I only needed the Family Groups. Suggestion was; do as many face to face meetings as you can over the next 90 days and after that decided if the program is for you. If you decide that it isn't for you, you can pick up your miseries and try anything else. I didn't like that last line, it made me scared and ill however it was considerate of choices.
I found the Al-Anon hotline number in the white pages of my local telephone book and called it. I got a real person who knew about me and the disease of alcoholism and pointed me to my first for real Al-Anon face to face meeting. (my first attempt at it was a disaster!!). She also suggested that while I was there to get as much literature as I could about alcoholism and to read it all and then to sit down and to listen to the group. It saved my life and then went on to save my mind, body and spirit. The number is in the white pages of the telephone book.
There is so much information out there now, and at first I didn't think I needed alanon or this board or any of it. I thought alanon was for the wives of the alcoholic. Now I know that it is for anyone that has been affected by alcohol/drug use. The Courage To Change is one of my favorites, along with As we understood. You can go to a face to face meeting and find all kinds of free literature. I like that I can do a group or this board, as a lot of times I can't get to a group. remember, this is about you now. Take care of you!
Welcome :) glad your here and it sure sounds like you qualify :) Felt the same as you are, i was fairly certain I was more messed up than the a's or addicts that I had in my life, some dead, some still alive...glad you found us. :) i think you will find some answers that your looking for that can and will help lead you to peace of mind in alanon...so glad your here :)
And you definitly belong with our family !!!! By the time I found Alanon I was truly just as if not sicker than the A's in my life. When I first got here and found out this program was to get me healthier I almost didn't come back...sheesh I wasn't the sick one I was looking to fix my addict son. I am so glad I stayed because as I said I was down right sick and had hit my own bottom. I too grew up surrounded by addicts and while I didn't become one I sure took on all their traits and behaviorisms. And unknowingly passed them right on to my own children. Please give the program a chance. Find meetings in your area, join us for our online meetings and start your own recovery. I promise you will not be sorry. Alanon has given me my life back and I am here to stay, I hope you are too Blessings
