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I am sick of all the upset and drama. This week, which was exceptionally long and tiring for me, left me very tired tonight. Ex-A comes in from pub and throws a wobbly about the boys playing video games upstairs. He can't sleep, so he's disappeared over to his hovel down the road. I am handing it over. I know I am dependent financially somewhat on this situation but it is not worth the hassle. The boys are not perfect but to be frank, I am downstairs and I can't hear a thing, it is their home too. I would in the past have done something to keep the peace, told the boys to stop playing etc but to be frank, not doing that anymore, the time for walking on eggshells is over in my home.
There's something about their coming home that pertains to the "wobbly". I know the ex A threw many a wobbly when he came home. There was once water on the floor and he accused me of not cleaning up. The water fountain was leaking.
I know I was always totally thrown by it. I'm glad you are aware that no amount of placating, diverting changes the fact they will throw one.
I lived in dread of the ex A coming home from one of his binges. I think one reason he threw the wobbly was to have an excuse to go right back out again.
